"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oldest age woman you'd have sex with?
- Thread starter Reyaj
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
9-3enthusiast
Senior Don Juan
I've heard of it happening, but not experienced it myself.... yet! - All post-menopausal women I've been with have had no problem as far as that's concerned.
I think it can happen due to hormonal changes - and so many these days get hormone replacement therapy if they have that problem and want to remain 'active'.
I suppose it's a similar principle to guys getting 'V' pills.
And the 'not as hard' thing in older men:
I found that fitness played a big part for me.
I did let myself get badly out of shape when I was married, I piled on a LOT of weight and began to suffer the dreaded 'not as hard with age' - then after the breakup I went full, 'No refined sugars', ate properly, started cycling for fitness again >>> Lost the excess weight >>> Got fit again...
Amazing the difference it made... It was like I was regenerating - I now look 10-12 yrs younger than I am, and physically I feel like I did in my 30s - including the contents of my pants.
I'm an even better prospect to a woman than I was in my 30s, because the guy down below reacts the same as it did at 30, but I'm now far more experienced, and have better self-control.
lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
I'd take a HARD pass on all three of those and I'm 48. Ye gods, they are as rough as a badgers arse.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You'll "let" them give you some head if you were in a long drought, and after doing so you might "consider" letting them give you some pvssy.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
TheCharmingGuy
Senior Don Juan
I could never do any of those either. They all look like they should either be a 3rd grade teacher or in prison.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
So wait if I read that right, you hooked up with one of your daughter's friends?
9-3enthusiast
Senior Don Juan
Well, Step-daughter's friend, but yep! More than one (all on separate occasions).
On that occasion it was more of a friend-of-a-friend..
I realise the term 'daughter's friend' doesn't sound good - but we're talking about women in their 30s and 40s here (Stepdaughter is 38)
All single free-agents at the time, and certainly NOT any of the ones that I've known since they were kids.
I'm not completely without scruples - LOL