older women

[gruby]

On the set there is this hot 34 yo. (i'm 24). we talk from time to time, all cool. how do i move on? ...of course, needless to say it's all only for "fun."

 

[cave dweller]

zero

Zero in on her hobbies, and her car.
ie.
She likes to oil paint.......become an oil paint guru
She drives a Ford Explorer---become a SUV guru
What type of books does she like to read?---See where I am coming from?
The key here is to become her friend and get her to talk and share things with you.....

cave dweller

 

[Mercenary]

cave dweller is right...

also, do NOT tell her you're age right away. She might write you off. Instead you should show her that you two are very much alike (if you are) and that you could teach HER a thing or two.

I'm seeing this one woman now that doesn't have a clue that I'm much younger than she is. If you show her that you're on her maturity and wisdom level then your age really won't matter.

tap that ass son, older women are loads of fun!

 

[squirrels]

Is she already showing signs of interest? If so, just go Gunwitch on her. Women at that age have less hang-ups about sex.

If not, I don't see why you can't just treat her like any other girl/woman. Unless she's looking for an LTR...in which case, do you really want that?

 

[DJ_Dork]

Just because a woman is older doesn't mean she has "more experience" if they're the shy type - patience. if she's the action type (which means she has a lot of experiences) - be assertive.

 

[cave dweller]

the play

The play

Work on these steps:

1..Start out with trying to be just 'a friend'
2. Move to being a 'close friend'
3..Now move to 'special friend' status

A 'special friend' is a woman who can keep a 'secret'......Like once in awhile you are slipping her panties off!

cave dweller

 

[Doug81]

Yes, cavedweller, that works just fine. I'm 19 seeing a 36 year old women and I followed the steps like that almost to the book. She "hides" me from people like I'm her little secret. When it comes to older women, there is no "friend zone" because they know the drill. The either like you and talk to you or they don't it's that simple. There are no games. It's fun being a "special friend"

 

[TurboLover]

If a women ever ask you your age. Reply.

Old enough for you to buy me a drink.

 

[gruby]

So wait, i don't get it... If the woman knows what's going on why do i have to become her 'friend' first?

 

[DJ_Dork]

Originally posted by Doug81
Yes, cavedweller, that works just fine. I'm 19 seeing a 36 year old women and I followed the steps like that almost to the book. She "hides" me from people like I'm her little secret. When it comes to older women, there is no "friend zone" because they know the drill. The either like you and talk to you or they don't it's that simple. There are no games. It's fun being a "special friend"

Damn dude, you do know this relationship was not meant to be (for the long run) - It's all good though.

Ever notice that the woman will bring up her age a lot, she's concerned... act like you don't care and try to tidy it up a bit by saying stuff like "tired of girls who haven't grown up" or "like wine, it comes better a few years older"

if she says stuff like "you seem mature for your age" - you are on the right track. If she says "you're a wild young stallion" she's just in it for the kicks.

 

[Doug81]

Hey many long happy relationships have signifigant age differences, so you can't make generalizations upon that. me and mine get along just great, for almost six months now and the age hasn't factored into it at all. She even has a kid, and the three of us do things together somewhat like a family. I mean as long as the relationship is based on friendship and trust and not just sex, then it'll last longer. If it does fall apart it won't be because of the age.

 

[cave dweller]

Banging an older woman is all about 'friendship'.
The way to play it is: Become her friend first and then move to that next level, which is the 'special friend' status.
But ----when she gets bored with you she will move on.

cave dweller

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by cave dweller
Banging an older woman is all about 'friendship'.
The way to play it is: Become her friend first and then move to that next level, which is the 'special friend' status.
But ----when she gets bored with you she will move on.

cave dweller

I agree up to the bored part. True, if she gets bored she'll move on but that's the same with all women. Understand that the latest fashion if for women to "date" younger guys. It's all about the excitement factor. If you aren't exciting, reconsider pursuing her because it could be a waste of time.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by cave dweller
Banging an older woman is all about 'friendship'.
The way to play it is: Become her friend first and then move to that next level, which is the 'special friend' status.
But ----when she gets bored with you she will move on.

cave dweller

I'm 24, I've banged two 35-year olds. Never once was there a "friend" stage.



Older women are JUST LIKE YOUNGER WOMEN, only without the drama and the hangups created by modern socio-corpocracy.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by squirrels
Is she already showing signs of interest? If so, just go Gunwitch on her. Women at that age have less hang-ups about sex.

LOL! This worked for me on Saturday night. Like shooting a fish in a barrel.

But seriously, what a refreshing change - this woman is about 9 years older than me - and I think perhaps the first real *Woman* I've ever had. Absolutely stupendous.

I am now really and truly understanding the difference between a real woman and all those pretenders in their 20's who are all about shallow mindgames, control, and cutting my f*cking nuts off.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Squirrels is right on this one. There is NO NEED to be friends, in fact, it will be counter-productive. You approach them the same way you would a lady your own age or younger; what is this friends first approach; that is so lame and AFC; that approach rarely will work.

Women at that age don't want to play as many games. You have to create and raise the attraction, not the affection. Your goal is not to become her little brother type of cute little friend. Your job is to sex her up and act like a man in control. What is wrong with you guys?

Just becuase she is older than you, does not mean you can go all AFC on her. The fact that you are a lot younger does not give you a free ticket to act like a chump; specially if she's hot. Believe me, she has plenty of offers from men of all ages. She is still relatively young, and searching for a man. Believe me, the preffer a guy near her age, because she is not old.

Why would a real woman, as you seem to be convinced she is, want a little boy who doesn't spark attraction and seems to be playing it safe and try the friends first zone. Any younger guy she gives a chance to, needs to be in control of himself, and not come across as a supplicating chump. Now, if you are trying to bag some late 40's-early 50's, you will run into a lot of them that will want some young meat, no games.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by cave dweller
Banging an older woman is all about 'friendship'.
The way to play it is: Become her friend first and then move to that next level, which is the 'special friend' status.
But ----when she gets bored with you she will move on.

cave dweller

Banging an OLD woman, might be more about friendship, but not just an OLDER woman. What, you mean she will put up with wuss behavior from a 24 year old, but not from a 32 year old? Come on guys. At best she'll think its cute, and will rationalize the afc behavior as part of the guy being a little too young for her.

The guy won't even get there with this kind of thing. She will be bored before he even gets started by being friends. This has to be some of the most misleading advice I've heard, well, just today, there is so much bad advice here everyday. Banging an older woman is not all about friendship. Think about what you just said.

This "older woman" is a hot chick. Women, specially hot chicks don't want to talk about cars, etc. If she is a hot chick, she needs to be dealt with like one, regardless of age. The key will be for the young guy to carry himself like a man who can handle a hot slightly older woman who still gets a lot of attention.

Start sparking the attraction. Neg hits, be fun, entertaining, and show you are not afraid to be sexual with her. She knows whats up, don't beat around the bush. Either she'll be interested early on, or not. Please don't become her little brother/friend. IT DOESN'T WORK!

 

[cave dweller]

one night stand

What is his goal here?

A 'one night stand' or a steady 'poke'?

cave dweller

 

[cave dweller]

hey gruby

Hey, gruby

Give us an update.
Did you slip her panties off yet?
If not, what is the problem?
What are you waiting on?

cave dweller