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Older Woman Wants me to be More Open

jaymbrs

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You should be dating 22 to 26 years old women.

There's so much benefits doing so that sometimes I just can't wrap my head with this preoccupation that men have with single mom's and older women.

The feminine imperatives has really done it's job screwing men's head and over riding their biological impulses.

Every single day I see good men being bullied by older women, single moms, lousy wife's, useless girlfriend's etc.

Why don't you take charge and lead a younger women instead ?

Lead her in the world you created.

Fvck the feminine imperative.

Follow through with the masculine imperative.
I date women of all ages but my sweet spot is between 26-30. Anything younger than 26 come off as too inexperienced for my taste. This one just happened to approach me and puts out all the time.
 
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Don’t fall for that one. Been there seen that. They play like they are ‘different’ and want you to be ‘open’ with them. It’s a sh!t test. When you open up it backfires in your face. They lose respect and eventually attraction for you. Keep your frame and stay the course. Don’t fall for one of the oldest traps in the book.
Absolutely.
 

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More like it's hardwired into them since birth goodstuff.
 
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It’s a standard test. Personally I like being really into a good connection but I’m not stupid.

If her lips are moving, especially at 37, it’s a compliance test. She tried to consolidate twice and ended up Divorced both times. She’s wrecked herself. She did it to herself. Men don’t owe her anything.
In a way I do empathize for her. She followed the imperative like a stupid sheep and now she gets to reap the fruits of her efforts. It’s kind of a wasted life if you think about it.
 

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I date women of all ages but my sweet spot is between 26-30. Anything younger than 26 come off as too inexperienced for my taste. This one just happened to approach me and puts out all the time.
Revert back to 26 then.

I could expand on why it's better to get younger women and it's best served on another thread if you create one so that others can provide their input too. It will give you an unbiased outlook.

Until then it's in ur best interest to dismiss this one. She's nothing but a leech that's going to suckk your spirit dry.
 

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Revert back to 26 then.

I could expand on why it's better to get younger women and it's best served on another thread if you create one so that others can provide their input too. It will give you an unbiased outlook.

Until then it's in ur best interest to dismiss this one. She's nothing but a leech that's going to suckk your spirit dry.
I don't disagree. It's just tough when she's hot and putting out consistently. Not to mention paying for stuff.
 

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I've recently started seeing a woman who is 37 years old, divorced twice and has a teenage daughter. I've never been married nor have any kids. She's very open when we speak, plays no games, literally feels like she's letting me read her play book, if you will. I'm naturally not a very open person. I've been told I'm very hard to read and most women actually enjoy that about me. However this one is essentially telling me she's into me and wants to continue dating but she needs some reassurance on her end that I legitimately like her as well and would like me to be more open and honest with her. And although I've told her on several occasions that I am interested in more than a fling, I feel she needs this reassurance done on a daily freakin basis. Otherwise she starts to get insecure and hides back in her shell. I really don't like this however this is the oldest woman I've dated and looking for advice on how to continue this. Is this the norm with older women? This is unfamiliar territory for me as most women I date play the song and dance portion of dating and I guess I've gotten used to that.
This is classic SMV gamespersonship at it's finest. An older woman with a ton of baggage trying to act normal and vulnerable to over-compensate for low market value. She's baiting you to over-invest too early so she can manipulate you any way she pleases.

Sadly, you're already ensnared emotionally. The more emotionally invested you become, the harder the breakup. You are potentially looking at losing months out of your life in a serious funk if and when things turn sour. More like 'when' rather than 'if.'

Do what a reasonable man would do. Get back in the game and find some hotter, higher status women who won't be as hardened as this particular cougar you've encountered.
 

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She does trash her exes. And I tell her I have no interest in hearing her talk about them. My spidey senses are tinglin' like a mutherfcker so I'll just pretend like I'm not too worried about it.
Listen to your instincts. Trust your instincts. Just like Lando:



You are just begging for her to tool you.
 

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Listen to your instincts. Trust your instincts. Just like Lando:



You are just begging for her to tool you.
Spidey senses means shes getting to much time. Her energy is causing a disruption in your force. Spend enough time with positive sources that you are fvcking. Ones that cooperate and help. Reduce her priority or cut her out.
 

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Don’t fall for that one. Been there seen that. They play like they are ‘different’ and want you to be ‘open’ with them. It’s a sh!t test. When you open up it backfires in your face. They lose respect and eventually attraction for you. Keep your frame and stay the course. Don’t fall for one of the oldest traps in the book.
Spot on. Stay the course.
She has been divorced twice. She shouldn’t be making any demands. I probably wouldn’t even let her decide what we are having for lunch. She is in no position to be asking for anything at this point.
 

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She's spending cash and fvcking on demand. He can still do his thing but he has a reliable support.
Some of these guys are acting like being alone is better than what I currently have with this woman. I have to filter out so much of the garbage advice I get on here.
 

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She's trying to get you to become more emotionally attached to her. Obviosuly, you should not play along because you are gonna get burned if you develop more of an emotional connection to her.

But she's gonna keep playing this game, she'll keep bringing it up and everytime you refuse to play along, she will withdraw from you. So everytime she pulls back, you'll invest a liiiiiiiiiittle more in her, just enough to make her "happy" again but not enough to get yourself in trouble. But 20 times 'a liiiiiiitle' equals to A LOT........ She sinks her hooks into slowly, man...without you realizing it, you are getting more emotionally attached to her...

So stay firm and resolute. Don't play along, just don't. Like you said yourself, she accepts you like you are or she moves on from you. Be prepared for her to move along, accept that this might happen and that you'll be ALONE then. Don't let the thought of being alone make you compromise yourself!

It is not better to be alone than to be with her... Unless being with her requires you to play along with her game!! In that case it is definitely better to be alone! Get it?
 

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By the way, give us an update please? Been almost two weeks since you started this thread, I'm sure a lot has happened in the relationship between you and her during this time.
 
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