You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You got me there. I felt that leaving little snippets of sarcasm give her a peak into my personality. So when she asks me why I don't have a GF and I respond that it doesn't work well with my side gigolo business, she doesn't get all weird.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How long does it take you to ask the girl out? The same day she replies to your initial message?
Ideally the within the first 4 messages.
Yes, the mission is to meet again soon. The number then just comes as an afterthought to further facilitate the meeting already organized.
WTF are you talking about? If you end up meeting her, you get the number then. Most cases she will give it to you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well, the point I was making is that a lot of the novices are just thinking about securing the number -- the number for the number's sake. Like a puppy dog with its tail wagging, they come back all excited about getting the number. Surprise, surprise it goes nowhere. Instead of building attraction [and perhaps an instant date], they were distracted by 'getting the number.'