OLD kiss of death: "I want to get to know you better"

[marmel75]

If you ever get this response when you ask a woman of she wants to grab a drink, just don't bother.

It sounds genuine but I can't remember a case where I ended up actually meeting them. Typically this signals 1 of 2 things:

1) She thinks you are attractive enough to get validation from for her endless messages.

2) She has you as the backup to the backup to the backup. Basically you are the guy she will go out with when she has nothing better to do.

Just tell them "I'd love to. In person. Drinks?"

If they still say no then you just tell them not to worry about it and move on. Dont waste time or energy into situations that aren't going anywhere. A woman doesn't need to "get to know you" to meet in a public place for drinks.

Will you miss the needle in the haystack woman that actually is being honest? Yes. But so what, you are saving lots of time and effort messaging women who are likely not interested enough to meet in person.

 

[soulforge]

How exactly do you ''get to know someone'' by text or whatsapp etc?

You don't.. If you REALLY want to get to know someone, you fuking meet.

What better way is there, than to have that face to face interaction!

When they want to get to know you by text etc.. Its just her stalling and talking BS

Move on to the next chick.

 

[Billtx49]

‘I want to get to know you better’ = I want some of your attention without any real effort being put out on my part.

 

[TBG]

I always find those that want to get to know you, are always boring to talk to.

 

[Glassguy]

How exactly do you ''get to know someone'' by text or whatsapp etc?

You don't.. If you REALLY want to get to know someone, you fuking meet.

What better way is there, than to have that face to face interaction!

When they want to get to know you by text etc.. Its just her stalling and talking BS

Move on to the next chick.

Exactly. When a woman on OLD tells me "I would like to get to know you better before meeting up" after I have offered to meet up for drinks, they always get the same response from me.

"I'm better at getting to know someone through meeting up and having a few drinks and good convo. I dont have time to endlessly text and not looking for a pen pal. Let me know later on if you change your mind".

Some will come back agreeing to meet up, those that dont werent worth my time if we did meet up anyways.

 

[sosousage]

If you ever get this response when you ask a woman of she wants to grab a drink, just don't bother.

It sounds genuine but I can't remember a case where I ended up actually meeting them. Typically this signals 1 of 2 things:

1) She thinks you are attractive enough to get validation from for her endless messages.

2) She has you as the backup to the backup to the backup. Basically you are the guy she will go out with when she has nothing better to do.

Just tell them "I'd love to. In person. Drinks?"

If they still say no then you just tell them not to worry about it and move on. Dont waste time or energy into situations that aren't going anywhere. A woman doesn't need to "get to know you" to meet in a public place for drinks.

Will you miss the needle in the haystack woman that actually is being honest? Yes. But so what, you are saving lots of time and effort messaging women who are likely not interested enough to meet in person.

y that line is so bs i had it many times mainly by attention *****s (usually less attractive and dumb looking) ba doom ts

 

[Macaframalama]

"I like to screen my potential dates as well. I figure if I'm going to risk life imprisonment hacking her up, she better be special."

That line hasn't failed me yet if she's on the fence. In a sense it's true. The screening part anyways. I've never been in a rush to meet OLD chicks, unless I was just starting a fresh rotation, a slot fell off in my rotation or I thought she might make a better fit, than one of the other women in my rotation. I would have been p!ssed several times over, having wasted an actual date on some of these women I've met over the years. Men need to start acting like the prize again, instead of up and jumping to grace these chicks with presence themselves and take every opportunity to see what she's about, before ever asking her out.

"Oh, she's hot and got a fat ass!" What? You ain't been there before? "Yea, but not with this one!"

I've met everything from hot 20yr old iv junkies with fat asses to hot, young religious freaks with fat asses and found that out with just a little bit of text time.

Act like you've been there before.

 

[Bible_Belt]

"I want to get to know you better"

Translation - I want to find out if you are married, like about half of the men on any dating site. I would play that angle. "Ahhh, did your last date's angry wife show up and spoil the party?"

 

[guru1000]

These days if a girl offers her phone number at my date request to talk before the date, I drop her. Too many available women who are literally begging to meet up straight off the apps.

Now this advice won’t be applicable to most of you with fewer options. So adapt your strategy accordingly.

 

[HankHill]

I don't know guys, I kind of agree but I see a trend here that y'all seem to be reading way too much into the basic wordings and have very set rules and such (same with AMS etc on YTube). Women are human beings too so they may not always have the perfect (whatever that is) response or an opener line, they struggle with those things too - oh and not everyone's out to get you or play games. As a matter of fact I've used that line on women after a couple of opener texts "I'd love to get to know you better...when are you free to get together" and have met them IRL. It all depends on the context and the situation.

 

[resilient]

Women are human beings, true, but I would disagree that most of them struggle with convos and openers.

Most women on OLD (and social media) are used to being opened and propositioned for dates, so they look to filter out the desperate (super nice guys), weirdo, perv, for a better perceived man.

Their experience and the length of time they've used apps and sites fine tune their senses to drop/ignore guys that they aren't interested in.

 

[HankHill]

Depends on the women...some are there for fun, some are there for a serious relationship and everything in between. They also don't want to come across as b1tchy, needy, wh0re, desperate, loose, stuck-up etc. This came from women that I've dated. I do agree that women in general are better at convos...though not always. This woman I went out with she was feeling awkward whenever there was even the slightest break in our conversation and would start saying things just to fill the space but it came out all random and she would realize it and then quickly ask me a question. They're also trying to put their best foot forward without coming across as weak.

 

[Red Legg]

Depends on the women. I have online dating conversations on my phone that go back months and months (lots of them ) I guess I don't burn bridges. I have fvcked women 5 months after the initial "hello" it all depends on my gut feeling but I hardly ever ghost before or after a relationship has begun.