"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So recently a girl I knew from high school found me on myspace. We knew eachother, but weren't really "friends", as in people who hung out or talked a lot. I think she was attracted to me, but i dated one of her good friends all through highschool. She used to tell my girlfriend things like "i want to steal him haha".

Anyway, she left me a message "i hope i see you this summer, i havnt seen you forever." It's been two years since weve seen each other. So she sent me her number and msn address.

Tonight i was bored and saw she was online, so i said lets go out for ice cream. She said im not hungry but i will go. Anyway i was just gonna get ice cream and drop her off, but when we got to her hosue she said "do u wanna come in and finish your ice cream?" Of course i said yes.

We had a good time, lots of convo, a lot of catching up type stuf, but some other things too. A little bit of kino, not too much, like i would put my hand on her leg for a second when i was telling a story. We were sittin on her couch watchin t.v. for about 1 hour and 15 minutes. At first her body was facing into me, we were sitting kind of close, but not too close. I didnt make a move!! She seemed to be habving fun, lots of laughing. But i didn't know what to do. I have a decent amount of experience with girls, but none in this situation.

I wasn't nervous at all, I was just not sure exactly how to go about making a move. I honestly think that i could get some play from her to be honest. I just did not want to try to get too close and make it seem weird. But like i said before, its not like we are "friends", i hadn't even talked to her for 2 years before this.

Anyway, any tips for next time? How do you think i should ask her to chill? And what should we do? I do not want to make it seem like too much of a "date", but i dont want to be a friend either. How do you recommend escalating to the point where we could get close? I know that i could get the kiss etc once we are close enough, thats not a problem. I am having trouble getting to that point. She seemed receptive, but maybe i was jsut scared to make it weird.

Sorry for the long a$$ post, but please any tips would be great. And no, i don't think this is the typical LJBF situation. Thanks everyone!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I hope you realize that she invited you in because she was hoping you'd **** her brains out. That's your tip for "next time."
 

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Dude. If You meet a women from old times and she dates You, there is onl 1 chance to kiss her. SO next time better do it. But there may be no next time because You acted like friend not potential attactor.
 

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I realized this, and i'm not proud of it. Any tips to make sure "next time" happens? I think it might be akward to do the traditional "date" thing, so maybe something similar to what we did the first time. picked her up at 10:45 p.m., so it wasn't like we did a whole dinner movie type date. Just ice cream and her house. And once i'm there, on escalating the kino and not making it seem weird? I'm pretty confident i can pull this off. I'm just having troubles getting it started.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just talked to her actually, got plans for later this week. We are either going to do something(what that is has yet to be determined), or she is going to help me decorate my new room, and we would probably chill afterwards. If we decided to "do something, what would you recomend, I don't want it to seem too "date-like". Any advice??????
 
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