"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So recently a girl I knew from high school found me on myspace. We knew eachother, but weren't really "friends", as in people who hung out or talked a lot. I think she was attracted to me, but i dated one of her good friends all through highschool. She used to tell my girlfriend things like "i want to steal him haha".

Anyway, she left me a message "i hope i see you this summer, i havnt seen you forever." It's been two years since weve seen each other. So she sent me her number and msn address.

Tonight i was bored and saw she was online, so i said lets go out for ice cream. She said im not hungry but i will go. Anyway i was just gonna get ice cream and drop her off, but when we got to her hosue she said "do u wanna come in and finish your ice cream?" Of course i said yes.

We had a good time, lots of convo, a lot of catching up type stuf, but some other things too. A little bit of kino, not too much, like i would put my hand on her leg for a second when i was telling a story. We were sittin on her couch watchin t.v. for about 1 hour and 15 minutes. At first her body was facing into me, we were sitting kind of close, but not too close. I didnt make a move!! She seemed to be habving fun, lots of laughing. But i didn't know what to do. I have a decent amount of experience with girls, but none in this situation.

I wasn't nervous at all, I was just not sure exactly how to go about making a move. I honestly think that i could get some play from her to be honest. I just did not want to try to get too close and make it seem weird. But like i said before, its not like we are "friends", i hadn't even talked to her for 2 years before this.

Anyway, any tips for next time? How do you think i should ask her to chill? And what should we do? I do not want to make it seem like too much of a "date", but i dont want to be a friend either. How do you recommend escalating to the point where we could get close? I know that i could get the kiss etc once we are close enough, thats not a problem. I am having trouble getting to that point. She seemed receptive, but maybe i was jsut scared to make it weird.

Sorry for the long a$$ post, but please any tips would be great. And no, i don't think this is the typical LJBF situation. Thanks everyone!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I hope you realize that she invited you in because she was hoping you'd **** her brains out. That's your tip for "next time."
 

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Dude. If You meet a women from old times and she dates You, there is onl 1 chance to kiss her. SO next time better do it. But there may be no next time because You acted like friend not potential attactor.
 

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I realized this, and i'm not proud of it. Any tips to make sure "next time" happens? I think it might be akward to do the traditional "date" thing, so maybe something similar to what we did the first time. picked her up at 10:45 p.m., so it wasn't like we did a whole dinner movie type date. Just ice cream and her house. And once i'm there, on escalating the kino and not making it seem weird? I'm pretty confident i can pull this off. I'm just having troubles getting it started.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just talked to her actually, got plans for later this week. We are either going to do something(what that is has yet to be determined), or she is going to help me decorate my new room, and we would probably chill afterwards. If we decided to "do something, what would you recomend, I don't want it to seem too "date-like". Any advice??????
 
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