"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Old ****buddy drunk called her

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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rapsta

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Thanks for the quick reply bro.

I am from Sweden so I am not 100% comfortable with the english hehe.

"Texting someone not to text you is bullsh*t"

what does that mean?
 

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Danger said:
She never told him she was taken, the real question is.......is she taken?

Are you both just fvking eachother, or are you in a committed relationship?


If committed, drop her. If just fvking her, who cares what she does?

Cool.. we are commited and we both know it. However, may I get some input on your thought on dropping her please? why go that road right away?
 

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One night I went over to a girls to bang. I got in bed with her and she started texting. I took her cell and chucked it against the wall.
Not suggesting you do that lol.
Don't let her fvck with you. You let her. She will. Better to piss her off then have her feel nothing.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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rapsta

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Hehe cool. You have a slightly more agressive methodology than me.

I am on the edge of not being reactive, and let her do whatever she wants and I trust her with it. But it just doesn't feel quite right.
I am not in scarcity of losing her, but it just doesn't feel right letting her go for something like this. At the same time, it doesn't feel right letting her go on chatting with a former ****buddy. Gahh. Complicated
 

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Danger said:
Does she know it??? It doesn't seem that way to me.


You should drop her right away because she did not send the message that she has a boyfriend and for him to leave her alone.

In other words, she values this man enough to disrespect your relationship in order to keep him around.

This means the girl is worthless for ANY kind of commitment. Just sex only. There is no going back on this, so don't even try to "talk it out" with her. Her actions tell you everything you need to know.


Your commitment has VALUE. Why give it away to someone who does not value it?
I definitely see what you mean.

As for the relationship, yes she knows it. I had a respectful and calm chat with her today about all this.

And I asked her what she responded to that guy when he wrote to her (I said because he must obviously have written or called you back since you didn't answer his calls).

She told me she just ignored his messages.

And we went on as usual.
I mean, I am not totally out of the league.. I know when a girl is trustworthy or not.. but it's just that that whole situation was disrespectful.

And I don't want to come off as an insecure dude and tell her to remove him from facebook
 

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You aren't being insecure telling her to get him off Facebook.... you are setting BOUNDARIES for what you will accept in a committed relationship. END it, or the next time she's mad at you, she'll run over and fu@k him. How do I know? I WAS the guy she came over to see while ENGAGED to and living WITH him. I dated her, then I think she was dating BOTH of us, because a month after we ended, He moved in. BUT when HE pissed her off, she'd stop over for a booty call.
 
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