"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Old ****buddy drunk called her
- Thread starter rapsta
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tictac
Banned
Texting someone not to text you is bullsh*t.
Look closely to see your own future.
Night-hawk
Master Don Juan
Not suggesting you do that lol.
Don't let her fvck with you. You let her. She will. Better to piss her off then have her feel nothing.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I am on the edge of not being reactive, and let her do whatever she wants and I trust her with it. But it just doesn't feel quite right.
I am not in scarcity of losing her, but it just doesn't feel right letting her go for something like this. At the same time, it doesn't feel right letting her go on chatting with a former ****buddy. Gahh. Complicated
I definitely see what you mean.Danger said:
As for the relationship, yes she knows it. I had a respectful and calm chat with her today about all this.
And I asked her what she responded to that guy when he wrote to her (I said because he must obviously have written or called you back since you didn't answer his calls).
She told me she just ignored his messages.
And we went on as usual.
I mean, I am not totally out of the league.. I know when a girl is trustworthy or not.. but it's just that that whole situation was disrespectful.
And I don't want to come off as an insecure dude and tell her to remove him from facebook