"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OLD advice on msg tactics

ubercat

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Hey guys I've got to this Vietnamese chick I've been messaging with. Lucky girl has been travelling around Europe. Given that she is an OLD chick she's probably getting knobbed by half of Italy right now.

And in my country asian chicks are definitely top of the o l d food chain so she d get plenty of site attention.

So I d done a few messages built a bit of rapport and it was time to see if she was just attention whoring Hit her up with the date request and she replied - " we will see when I get back" now the reason I'm analysing this is because it is OLD if it comes up once it will come up 100 times

So assuming I want to keep frame because I'm not going Gaga over some random net chick what's the best response
1. NC ie. no reply
2. NP it was nice chatting ie start closing the door and see if she tries to put her foot in it
3. NP good luck with your Hunt - slam door shut keep strongest frame but zero chance of anything moving from there
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Number 2, Slim chance but she might hit you up when she gets back. You leave the door open a bit and forget about it. If she messages it's a pleasant surprise. You will have to have made an impression. She has loads of guys messaging her but it's a waste of time to continue.
 

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Forgot to tidy up this thread. Went with option 2 - she cracked out. Sent me wall of text about how she wouldnt keep messaging a guy if she wasn't interested (lmao) and how it was over to me...blah blah. Yeah of course OLD girls are known for their stability ;-) If she's this easily set off - she ain't gonna enjoy time with me - NEXT
 

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Forgot to tidy up this thread. Went with option 2 - she cracked out. Sent me wall of text about how she wouldnt keep messaging a guy if she wasn't interested (lmao) and how it was over to me...blah blah. Yeah of course OLD girls are known for their stability ;-) If she's this easily set off - she ain't gonna enjoy time with me - NEXT
Good for you.

At least the cow got back to you. You did something right. Not your fault she was not up to snuff.
 

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Nice job, OP. #2 works every time. Women can't stand it when we take control and cut it off before they do. They are used to the regular beta spiral which always ends on their terms one way or the other. When we end it, it blows their mind and sends their egos into literal nuclear meltdown. Then they HAVE to get back into it somehow, in hopes that you will take them back so they can "try you out" one more time and later end it on their terms of THEY want to. This goes for LTRs, STRs, plates, and even women who you haven't had the first date with yet. It all plays the same.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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