"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Okcupid girl

Bassmasterzac

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Alright laugh it up I used okcupid haha, I messaged this awesome girl I had a high match with. We hit if off really good, flirting, escalation. I quickly asked her out. She was busy so we had to schedule a week im advance.
I asked her for her number and that was the last message we exchanged after posting her digits. I sent her a text tonight (dates tom) and she never replied to it. This was the first time i texted her.

The text was: Looking forward to
meeting a girl that THINKS she can outfish me;) see you at 3 tomorrow by the (location). Bring a bathing suit.

I know the message is horrible. Anywho, does that mean she lost interest or am
i overthinking it? Should i even show up?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Vice

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Don't bother showing up. I've noticed many girls use online dating as a means to validate themselves and snicker to their girlfriends regarding the guys they manipulate into meeting up, and then blow off. I've seen it first hand. I've been in the room as they cruise Facebook and OKC/POF for "cute guys" and the comments they make.

If you live in a large city you would be much better off honing your game in real life.
 

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If you don't get a reply up to 2-3 hrs before the original time for the date, don't bother. Give it some time, she could of dropped her phone in the shıtter for all you know. However, the closer the set time approaches and the more she remains radio silent, the more concrete her flake becomes. Just an attention whóre off the net.
 

Bassmasterzac

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Very insightful advice, guys! Forget her then, I'll just go fish by myself
tomorrow and meet some people on the beach. I just moved, so I thought itd be a good way to network.

She didn't seem like a *****y or shallow type, though. She was a nice girl, and my okcupid was originally ga, so when i set up a meet she was joking at first until i said a location near her, then got excited. I thought maybe i did something wrong, or maybe she did drop her phone lolz

Thanks guys
 

Vice

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Don't take it personally dude, this is a very normal occurrence online. It is possible to get a date, but honestly it's not worth the effort.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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El Payaso

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Most girls on dating sites are just there for validation.
 
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