"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alright laugh it up I used okcupid haha, I messaged this awesome girl I had a high match with. We hit if off really good, flirting, escalation. I quickly asked her out. She was busy so we had to schedule a week im advance.
I asked her for her number and that was the last message we exchanged after posting her digits. I sent her a text tonight (dates tom) and she never replied to it. This was the first time i texted her.

The text was: Looking forward to
meeting a girl that THINKS she can outfish me;) see you at 3 tomorrow by the (location). Bring a bathing suit.

I know the message is horrible. Anywho, does that mean she lost interest or am
i overthinking it? Should i even show up?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't bother showing up. I've noticed many girls use online dating as a means to validate themselves and snicker to their girlfriends regarding the guys they manipulate into meeting up, and then blow off. I've seen it first hand. I've been in the room as they cruise Facebook and OKC/POF for "cute guys" and the comments they make.

If you live in a large city you would be much better off honing your game in real life.
 
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If you don't get a reply up to 2-3 hrs before the original time for the date, don't bother. Give it some time, she could of dropped her phone in the shıtter for all you know. However, the closer the set time approaches and the more she remains radio silent, the more concrete her flake becomes. Just an attention whóre off the net.
 
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Very insightful advice, guys! Forget her then, I'll just go fish by myself
tomorrow and meet some people on the beach. I just moved, so I thought itd be a good way to network.

She didn't seem like a *****y or shallow type, though. She was a nice girl, and my okcupid was originally ga, so when i set up a meet she was joking at first until i said a location near her, then got excited. I thought maybe i did something wrong, or maybe she did drop her phone lolz

Thanks guys
 
Vice

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Don't take it personally dude, this is a very normal occurrence online. It is possible to get a date, but honestly it's not worth the effort.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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El Payaso

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Most girls on dating sites are just there for validation.
 
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