"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OKCupid and texting

tdotseoul

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So I have this message that I send to every girl and it has gotten a lot of good responses and got numbers.

But, I fail from the text game.

What is the purpose of texting after they have given me their number and how can I date close?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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El Payaso

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I'll tell you what I usually do. I don't number close, I date close. I ask them out on the date right on the website and if they agree, I ask for their number so we can keep in contact better than the website.

I find date closing to be more effective than number closing. Asking for a number only works better during cold approaches when you might not see the girl again or you might not see her as often so you need it to keep in contact or as a medium to ask her out.

OLD (Online Dating), you're already messaging back and forth. No need to push it to texting back and forth before asking her out.
 

ImWithTheDJ

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If she doesn't response to your texts that mean she isn't interested. Next her.
 
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