"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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OKC rejection left me on Cloud 9, and ecstatic, lol

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Messaged this girl on OKC, and she said verbatim:

"I am SO not into the bodybuilder look. I mean, OK, great you workout, but do you really have to look like such a meathead? Sorry, not interested."

That pretty much left me on cloud 9 and high fiving myself...I literally wanted to give this chick a giant hug through the OKC site...hahaha...ah well, win some, lose some no matter what you look like I guess...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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marmel75 said:
Messaged this girl on OKC, and she said verbatim:

"I am SO not into the bodybuilder look. I mean, OK, great you workout, but do you really have to look like such a meathead? Sorry, not interested."

That pretty much left me on cloud 9 and high fiving myself...I literally wanted to give this chick a giant hug through the OKC site...hahaha...ah well, win some, lose some no matter what you look like I guess...
ahahah epic man! That would put a huge smile on my face to. :up:
 

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n52 said:
ROOOOIDS:cuss:
Nope...SARMs ;-)

And a lot of hard work...
 
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You must be overly built to get that kind of messages.

But then again some women are crazy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SamTheHobit said:
You must be overly built to get that kind of messages.

But then again some women are crazy.
So far I have been told I look like:

Wolverine, Superman, one of the Avengers, "geez you are ripped", and now a bodybuilder, lol
 

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Here's betting $50 that the next guy she dates is EXACTLY the "bodybuilder type". Mark my words. I've seen it all when it comes to women and what they do or don't want. I've seen girls with the most banging body you could imagine that workout 4-5 times a week and claim to want someone who's in shape and is all about working out like they are, only to date some fat@$$ looking guy who's never ridden past a gym, much less been in one.
 

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lol @ SARMs, you might as well just be injecting test, at least you know what you're putting into your body
 

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thatfeel said:
lol @ SARMs, you might as well just be injecting test, at least you know what you're putting into your body
The thought of giving blood several times a year to prevent high hematocrit levels is too much to bear...

SARMs are highly effective at a risk/reward level I can deal with...
 

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marmel75 -
you've been away for a while, what happened? Last we heard from you, your wife busted you for your online antics... like a year ago wasn't it?

What's the rest of the story?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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marmel75 said:
"I am SO not into the bodybuilder look. I mean, OK, great you workout, but do you really have to look like such a meathead? Sorry, not interested."
Did you respond? I used to love b1tchy messages like this. Unless they block you afterwards.

My response: Meat....head? Dont understand. My head does not have meat on it. You r confusing woman.
 

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ask her if she likes fat guys with money haha
 

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marmel75 said:
Messaged this girl on OKC, and she said verbatim:

"I am SO not into the bodybuilder look. I mean, OK, great you workout, but do you really have to look like such a meathead? Sorry, not interested."

That pretty much left me on cloud 9 and high fiving myself...I literally wanted to give this chick a giant hug through the OKC site...hahaha...ah well, win some, lose some no matter what you look like I guess...

Chick was full of it.

She most likely got burned by a few jacked or cut up dudes and is now trying a thinly veiled attempt to "push them all away" and her reply was a test to see if you could charm her with some funny response right back at her and surprise her or just run off like some dude who had no confidence but only "muscles".

I'd be willing to bet she's dated/ gotten pounded out by jacked/gym dudes before.

Dude like I told you. Next time. (Since you mentioned to me you replied with something else.)

I would've replied:

Hey, us meatheads are people too! Do you always make it a point to tell dudes who take care of themselves and write you that you are sooo not into them? Or in my case did you decide to make a special exception? You never know..I could've one day been your favorite meathead! lol =)


Simple and quick reply. She'd either reject and you keep it moving or I suspect she'd know you aren't buying her nonsense and gotten a bit surprised the "meathead" isn't so bad..
 

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marmel75 said:
Messaged this girl on OKC, and she said verbatim:

"I am SO not into the bodybuilder look. I mean, OK, great you workout, but do you really have to look like such a meathead? Sorry, not interested."

That pretty much left me on cloud 9 and high fiving myself...I literally wanted to give this chick a giant hug through the OKC site...hahaha...ah well, win some, lose some no matter what you look like I guess...

So that's the rejection you got....that you look like a meathead. Ok,lol.

Well I think I have one that can top that.....


This just happened the day before yesterday (On Wednesday). Me and this chick on OKC had been messaging back and forth,she gave me her number,traded a few text,etc,etc.


We had done that for like 2 or 3 days. Anyway,I get home from work Wednesday night,then when I got on Cupid,I noticed I had a message from her. She told me that she was going through looking at some of my answers to questions they asked and she said my answers raised some red flags for her.


Now.....check THIS out....

The "red flags" that I supposedly raised for her was that I'm AGAINST drugs. Read that again....I'm AGAINST drugs....I'm anti-drug. I don't do meth,crack,"E",smoke weed,or anything.


Well this chick,she has seizures. I know that,she told me that. In her rejection message to me,she told me her doctor recommended that she smoke pot,said that it'll help her with her seizures. Well he's the doctor,if he says it'll help,then I say go ahead with it. But she went on about how she doesn't think it's that bad,and blah,blah,blah.

Don't know if she was trying to convince me or what,but I know some doctors recommend pot for certain medical conditions,I understood that.

I ain't no doctor. So if the doc prescribes it,I don't have a problem that,they're the one who went to medical school,not me.



So there you go. I told her it's cool,wished her luck on the site,but getting rejected cause I'm AGAINST drugs??? I said to myself,"Damn...and just when I thought I'd seen it all"...:crackup:


It's cool though...got a date set up with another chick from there tonight anyway.
 
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Look in mirror, see HB9 checking me out
Say "What an awesome body"
She blushes, giggles and says thanks
Say "No I meant me"
Sprint to pull up bar
25 reps
Muscle Confusion
High Five Myself
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BeDJ said:
Be marmel75
Preparing to deadlift 3 plates
Look in mirror, see HB9 checking me out
Say "What an awesome body"
She blushes, giggles and says thanks
Say "No I meant me"
Sprint to pull up bar
25 reps
Muscle Confusion
High Five Myself
LMAO, now see this is funny. And I hope Marmel can laugh too. The forum is supposed to bind us together, not have us arguing and fighting all the time.
I want to worry about getting laid, not whether humble ninja is going to stab me in the exercise yard with a tooth brush.

Humble, you know that was a joke....right?
 

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BeDJ said:
Be marmel75
Preparing to deadlift 3 plates
Look in mirror, see HB9 checking me out
Say "What an awesome body"
She blushes, giggles and says thanks
Say "No I meant me"
Sprint to pull up bar
25 reps
Muscle Confusion
High Five Myself
Lol, if I was deadlifting 3 plates, that would mean I'm still warming up, hahaha :rock:
 

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BeDJ said:
Be marmel75
Preparing to deadlift 3 plates
Look in mirror, see HB9 checking me out
Say "What an awesome body"
She blushes, giggles and says thanks
Say "No I meant me"
Sprint to pull up bar
25 reps
Muscle Confusion
High Five Myself
Sprint?:cuss: sounds like cardio - don't swear at me!

And everyone knows that real muscle confusion comes from curling in the squat rack:cheer:
 

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Purefilth said:
Sprint?:cuss: sounds like cardio - don't swear at me!

And everyone knows that real muscle confusion comes from curling in the squat rack:cheer:
LMAO....

I prefer doing pull-ups in the squat rack :crackup:
 

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marmel75 said:
Messaged this girl on OKC, and she said verbatim:

"I am SO not into the bodybuilder look. I mean, OK, great you workout, but do you really have to look like such a meathead? Sorry, not interested."

That pretty much left me on cloud 9 and high fiving myself...I literally wanted to give this chick a giant hug through the OKC site...hahaha...ah well, win some, lose some no matter what you look like I guess...
Can I get some advice from you….?

I'm trying to lose belly fat and build muscle in chest/shoulders. What kind of routine should I do. Right now I do 3 days a week, cardio for 10 minutes then weights for 50 minutes. If I do intense cardio like sprinting will that hurt the results I get from weight training?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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