"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ok i think im going nuts

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lol seriously, my minds elsewere, like i cant think straight, i cant concentrate, my minds like listening to a radio, im thinking random bullcrap , is this normal, is it just my mind over working?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i get that, its annoying ! its seriously affecting my game because its hard to concentrate
 

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Every day just stare at a point (a spec of fluff will do the job) and block out all thoughts. Thoughts will come, just ignore them. Do this for 5 minutes every day, then work up to like half an hour if you want to be a superhuman freakshow. Take cold showers and block out the cold etc.

It's called meditating on the void. It's simple but it can do wonders for your life.
 

ThreeStorms

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DO NOT multitask, like listening to music, reading and eating at the same time. Be fully focused on ONE thing. I almost could not read books anymore because of the lack of concentration. Since I stopped multitasking, I got my concentration back.
Also, do outdoor sports. Get enough sleep. Meet people and chat with them.
 

Skilla_Staz

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It may be ADD. It may just be a short attention span. It may just be that you're tired and can't focus on one thing. Also, don't blame your poor game on concentration. I have ADD and refuse to take my meds, yet my game is doing just fine.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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