"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ok i think im going nuts

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lol seriously, my minds elsewere, like i cant think straight, i cant concentrate, my minds like listening to a radio, im thinking random bullcrap , is this normal, is it just my mind over working?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i get that, its annoying ! its seriously affecting my game because its hard to concentrate
 

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Every day just stare at a point (a spec of fluff will do the job) and block out all thoughts. Thoughts will come, just ignore them. Do this for 5 minutes every day, then work up to like half an hour if you want to be a superhuman freakshow. Take cold showers and block out the cold etc.

It's called meditating on the void. It's simple but it can do wonders for your life.
 

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DO NOT multitask, like listening to music, reading and eating at the same time. Be fully focused on ONE thing. I almost could not read books anymore because of the lack of concentration. Since I stopped multitasking, I got my concentration back.
Also, do outdoor sports. Get enough sleep. Meet people and chat with them.
 

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It may be ADD. It may just be a short attention span. It may just be that you're tired and can't focus on one thing. Also, don't blame your poor game on concentration. I have ADD and refuse to take my meds, yet my game is doing just fine.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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