thelonewolflegend
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i know i had car wreck but i am lonely and want someone to be with and date and see me while i am here recooperating i dont know what to do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ok I know to get better but dont understand i need companionship.
- Thread starter thelonewolflegend
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
VikingKing
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Escort service.
TheMonkeyKing
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Lonewolf,
Go make some genuine companions then, whether male or female.
Even if you're hanging with other dudes every night - what follow males around like a bad smell....? That's right; females. And you are learning to re-engage with masculinity at the same time.
Or, lower your standards.
Or, escort service.
Go make some genuine companions then, whether male or female.
Even if you're hanging with other dudes every night - what follow males around like a bad smell....? That's right; females. And you are learning to re-engage with masculinity at the same time.
Or, lower your standards.
Or, escort service.
logicallefty
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I agree with all this.TheMonkeyKing said:
When I used to get this way I would date women who were lower than my normal standards, just to have some companionship.
Consider each date like a night out of drinking. Go out, have fun. The next day, it's gone, done, and overwith.
Don't do it with the expectation that you will see her again past that night, just like you wont see the actual beer you drank last night again (well ok you will one more time, but its not beer anymore at that point lol) Hopefully you catch my drift. Maybe you will see her but don't count on it.