"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Oh man I need help ... or am I beyond saving??

The_Unit

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Theres girl at my school who I really like, and while we were hanging out, she gets the impression that I'm easily scared. I'm really not, but sometimes it might seem that way, especially when it comes to certain things. Theres also the problem that *I think* she felt that sometimes I might not be "manly" enough...

my question is ...
did I blow it with her?? ... with all these impressions she may have of me now... oh man i scrwed up royally didnt I >.< ... how do I dig myself out of this hole ... or is it beyond saving *gulp* :nervous:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kings_royalty

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I don't think you are beyond saving, but this...or is it beyond saving *gulp*...tells me she may be on to something.

Talk to her, see if you can figure out why she has this impression about you, then fix it. It's a primal instinct for a girl to look for a 'man' that can protect her, not a boy.

I think allot of women these days are snotty and bitter because they are tired of dealing with men who have no spine, don't become one of these guys.
 

WC2

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Very vague. And the fact that you're asking us if you're beyonding saving tells me that you are beyond saving. It's the brutal reality. When you come to an online forum to ask if you are going to work with a certain woman, chances you will not.
 

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WC2 said:
Very vague. And the fact that you're asking us if you're beyonding saving tells me that you are beyond saving. It's the brutal reality. When you come to an online forum to ask if you are going to work with a certain woman, chances you will not.
Damn, dude. That's harsh.

But true.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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