“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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officially not afc.

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damn.. life as an afc is finally over!

i just went on to my first date, and damn!:D
i've been focusing on 3 chicks lately, but i dont really date them.

tonight, i dated one girl. a very cute girl in fact..
suddenly, from out of nowhere, i get txt messages from 2 different girls.. one of them were like, "hey i'm sorry if i said something wrong, why arent you talking to me anymore? blah blah.." (she apologized like 3 more times, but i was too busy to acknowledge at the time)

the other one went like this, "how can i get you if someone is with you? how can you be my special one if someone else is special for you? =("

basically both of them were coming off desperate to me! i could get them if i wanted to!

tonight, after the movie, i met with another chick, now I had 2 girls on my shoulder.. coincidentally they were both dressed in black! i looked so pimped. :D

we had dinner for 3 in a french restaurant, guess what? they paid for it! and afterwards they thanked me for the night. twice!

i got kisses from both parties. next time, i might take them to a motel or something. i guess what im trying to say here is... THANK YOU SO SUAVE COMMUNITY :D

oh and i forgot to add, this girl i was so afc over months ago? she called last night. i didnt entertain her that much since i had a great date the next day (which is tonight). it's just...

"funny how things change overnight when you thinkin right.." -xzibit
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by -.-
now I had 2 girls on my shoulder.. coincidentally they were both dressed in black! i looked so pimped. :D
Quite the pimp! :D
Good for you man! i don't know how you get your date to be okay with another girl on board so yeah.. good for you!
 

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Re: Re: officially not afc.

Originally posted by Caveman
Quite the pimp! :D
Good for you man! i don't know how you get your date to be okay with another girl on board so yeah.. good for you!
Pretty wierd, I'd say both of them were trying to get my attention so they were pretty much fighting for my attention i'd say. :D

i pick one over another though, i've known my original date for like 10 years. :)
 

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Yeah.. once girls are getting into you, there's no stopping them :)

So are you picking the new girl over your original date then?
 

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Originally posted by Caveman
Yeah.. once girls are getting into you, there's no stopping them :)

So are you picking the new girl over your original date then?
No, the one i've known for over 10 years is the girl i like more. She's a bit shy. I really like her ettiquete.

dont wanna mess this one up though, sux to mess up a decade of friendship. basically, if i stay with this girl i'll be in a LTR, and a serious one. But maybe not just yet! :D

im starting to like this dj thing. i'll try my luck at church tomorow.. :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by -.-
No, the one i've known for over 10 years is the girl i like more. She's a bit shy. I really like her ettiquete.

dont wanna mess this one up though, sux to mess up a decade of friendship. basically, if i stay with this girl i'll be in a LTR, and a serious one. But maybe not just yet! :D

im starting to like this dj thing. i'll try my luck at church tomorow.. :D
Congrats, man.

Just stay engaged with it. Don't get too comfortable with Don-Juan STATUS. Make sure to continue to engage the women and learn from those experiences and it'll just keep coming. :)
 

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Alright then! :)

Be careful not to slip back into afc ways when you are in LTR. I know the feeling of getting comfortable with her, showing more and more emotions and letting her get away with more sh!t everyday..

Anyway, you have the knowledge. I'm sure you will be fine.
 

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Originally posted by Caveman
Alright then! :)

Be careful not to slip back into afc ways when you are in LTR. I know the feeling of getting comfortable with her, showing more and more emotions and letting her get away with more sh!t everyday..

Anyway, you have the knowledge. I'm sure you will be fine.
Thanks for the tip. I'll remember that.
 

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good for you

Glad your date went good.

I have heard from more than one DJ that they went AFC after they became exclusive with a chick. Don't let it happen because that is when she will dump you.

Best of luck when you date them again:)
 

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First off, good job man, great inspiration to others too!

tonight, after the movie, i met with another chick, now I had 2 girls on my shoulder.. coincidentally they were both dressed in black! i looked so pimped.
Can you go into details on that part? In the last 6 months I've over-come my anxiety to date, talk to chicks, etc. But I don't think I'm DJ enough to pull that move. And you did it on the first date ever? wow, I'm impressed.

Details/tips/pointers on that part would be appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You have just discovered the AWESOME power of SOCIAL PROOF and PIVOTS.
 

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Originally posted by JT47319
You have just discovered the AWESOME power of SOCIAL PROOF and PIVOTS.
Thanks.. that's great and all, but i'm not sure I understand what you mean by pivots & being social proof?
 

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good work keep it up...
keep improving your skills and be the biggest pimp on your side of the planet :)
 

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I've been looking at your posts exclusively for a while. You really reminded me or me when I first joined the board, I was debating wether I was going to help you, but looks like you are doing fine.


on a side note...





CAVEMAN IS BACK!?!?!?!?!?!!!!


Heeeey!!!! What's up!!!!
I thought I've seen you now and then, but I thought it was just old posts that has been bumped up or something.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Dee-Zy
CAVEMAN IS BACK!?!?!?!?!?!!!!


Heeeey!!!! What's up!!!!
I thought I've seen you now and then, but I thought it was just old posts that has been bumped up or something.
Yup.. all new and improved.. :)
How you been?
 

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good, I guess - but tell me why caveman?

or just PM me.
 
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Yeah well.. your mailbox is full, mate.
 
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