"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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offering her help on something..friendzone?

big weezy

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Is it always likely to go one way i.e. friendzone if you offer your help to a woman?

A woman I sarged has the same taste as movies as me and I was showing her on her laptop she could stream movies online. She says she only wants to watch it on a big flat screen and I was telling her about what cables she needs etc. she was really excited about it but I didn't offer to come round and show her but I could.

Is this a silly offer to make?

I'm very conscious that I could be friendzoned but my sinister thinking is that if she lets me come in and I manage to get it all set up to watch a film she might invite me to stay and have dinner and watch a film with her and who knows.. maybe i'll get some if i can make her wet with a bit of convo.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PapiChulo

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Why not, it is a perfect pretense to "help her". You have to use other means apart from convo to get her wet.
 

Jariel

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I think guys worry too much about this kind of thing and the sad thing is girls will often use this plea for help as a way of getting you to spend time with them.

When it comes to the friendzone, the most important thing to remember is that you must make your intentions clear, flirt with her, talk sexually, tease and neg hit her.

The friendzone is usually for guys who act too much like a friend and don't have the balls to escalate.
 
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