"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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One of the best posts I've ever read.
 
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Great post but it doesn't really cover getting the mindset.

What I learned, and what one of the posters pointed out. You only gain this perspective from a lot of experience. You HAVE to know what you want in a woman, and you MUST know your own value in order to have this mindset. There are NO shortcuts. You can't get this experience from 3 or 5 approaches.

Otherwise it's like saying "You got to have confidence" without really saying how to obtain it.
 
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I somewhat agree with that, but not entirely. Although experience is desired, the confidence should come first. For example, you can go into a job and be confident even if you've never worked there before. I'm sure Bill Gates didn't enter business by saying "gee I don't have any experience here compared to those other guys. I probably won't do very well". Or Tiger Woods saying "I'm too young to play, these guys are more experienced and are more confident than me".
I think experience is used to compliment your confidence that you should already have. As Pook says "Success is achieved first through the mind, then through the world, never the other way around."
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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OK I'm confused by the "chicken or the egg" thing going on.

Are we saying that confidence comes from success or success comes from confidence?

Obviously we get confidence from having our lives in order. But the original post says that this isn't the point... we should have the mindset FIRST and success (in all phases) will come later.

Does anyone have a suggestion for tricking the old mind into feeling this confidence "early"?
 
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