"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Offensive vs defensive plays

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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One of the best posts I've ever read.
 

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Great post but it doesn't really cover getting the mindset.

What I learned, and what one of the posters pointed out. You only gain this perspective from a lot of experience. You HAVE to know what you want in a woman, and you MUST know your own value in order to have this mindset. There are NO shortcuts. You can't get this experience from 3 or 5 approaches.

Otherwise it's like saying "You got to have confidence" without really saying how to obtain it.
 

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I somewhat agree with that, but not entirely. Although experience is desired, the confidence should come first. For example, you can go into a job and be confident even if you've never worked there before. I'm sure Bill Gates didn't enter business by saying "gee I don't have any experience here compared to those other guys. I probably won't do very well". Or Tiger Woods saying "I'm too young to play, these guys are more experienced and are more confident than me".
I think experience is used to compliment your confidence that you should already have. As Pook says "Success is achieved first through the mind, then through the world, never the other way around."
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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OK I'm confused by the "chicken or the egg" thing going on.

Are we saying that confidence comes from success or success comes from confidence?

Obviously we get confidence from having our lives in order. But the original post says that this isn't the point... we should have the mindset FIRST and success (in all phases) will come later.

Does anyone have a suggestion for tricking the old mind into feeling this confidence "early"?
 
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