"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Off the boat asian, movie or a party

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I met this asian girl at a Twins game tonight. I was hammered so I got her number. She seemed shy but took my phone after asking for her number and put it in (I was probably too drunk to put it in).

Anyways I wanna bang a Japanese girl before I die. With this broad is it best to take an off the boat Japanese girl (probably has the anti-sex on first date bug up her butt) to a party (not sure if she drinks, she may feel uncomfortable) or to a movie (where she may feel more relaxed)

Looking for guys with asian women experience.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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action date. no movies. go somewhere fun then to the party afterwards perhaps?
 

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Just take her wherever and tell her what you told us, tell her you want to bang a japanese girl before you die and if she plays her cards right, she can be that girl. ;)
 

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I wouldn't take her to a party because other guys will flirt with her and she will likely flirt back with them.

I wouldn't worry so much about her being japanese, because you met her at a baseball game. Just build more comfort than you normally would, otherwise game her the same you would any other woman.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No one likes movie idea?

I suppose that sounds a little too intimate for getting to know her for like 2 minutes in the concession line.
 

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Man do something interesting in your area. If she really is FOB, then she'll have a better time seeing the sights around town than sitting at a movie theatre.
 

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she's been at my local university for roughly a year I think so she probably knows the area. I've only been here for a few months so I dunno what is good in minneapolis.
 

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itishe said:
she's been at my local university for roughly a year I think so she probably knows the area. I've only been here for a few months so I dunno what is good in minneapolis.

No excuses. Who cares if she's been there a year, it's up to you to find something interesting unless you are just going to go see movies every date. Just do something with her, if there isn't anything interesting, which there probably is, just go for drinks or coffee, then do something else. Get to know her, build comfort and flirt with her, and remember to kino.

Honestly you are over thinking this to much. Just go for it.
 

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SharinganUser said:
No excuses. Who cares if she's been there a year, it's up to you to find something interesting unless you are just going to go see movies every date. Just do something with her, if there isn't anything interesting, which there probably is, just go for drinks or coffee, then do something else. Get to know her, build comfort and flirt with her, and remember to kino.

Honestly you are over thinking this to much. Just go for it.
I am. I really just have had yellow fever bad lately. I don't mind going on "action" dates it's just seems like too much work to find a place online, find the bus route, ride a bus to a date (wtf), etc.

I think getting coffee or tea on campus would be cool, I like this one a lot actually. She'll probably be more into this as we didn't get much time to talk.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SharinganUser said:
I wouldn't take her to a party because other guys will flirt with her and she will likely flirt back with them.
Exactly. How dumb an idea is it to take a girl, ur trying to get with to a party?
 

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itishe said:
I am. I really just have had yellow fever bad lately. I don't mind going on "action" dates it's just seems like too much work to find a place online, find the bus route, ride a bus to a date (wtf), etc.

I think getting coffee or tea on campus would be cool, I like this one a lot actually. She'll probably be more into this as we didn't get much time to talk.
living in Asia has taught me: Asian girls are the same as the others
 

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I been with my girl for like 2 years so I've fallen out of the dating game.

I got her number wed night so would you say it's right to call tomorrow and set up something for like tuesday night?
 
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