Odd experience after dating for a bit...

[mattyt]

I think I will start the bible from scratch

 

[mattyt]

Did she initiate the re-connect?

If so, this is what I call "spinning plates." She seems to be doing the spinning, though.

Which, in my opinion, is fine.

Key in my mind is to go ghost. I would just say, "Sure Hon sounds good. Text/call me when you want to catch up and I'll let you know if I'm available that day. Have a great day!"

She initiated it with the odd late night phone call, the day after she said that we should catch up for a drink. I sent her a msg, today and all it said was, drinks this week? She sent back a big msg saying that she's busy this week but how about next Monday???
I wrote back some time later saying if we do Monday We should do dinner, few texts exchanged and no real answer to that so I think she is just feeling her ego.

 

[ubercat]

Seems to be an ego thing every guy thinks he is a ladies man even even if all the evidence suggests he doesn't have a clue. I've got a mate who s just getting out of a train wreck of a relationship. Pattern is he asks me questions I answer and then he tells me he knew that anyway or he already does it. Fvck me sideways most guys pride is hardwired to their stupidity

 

[ubercat]

So I hope u do work thru the Bible more than once and then figure out how to train the basics. Intellectual knowledge counts for squat. What you need is it all to become part of your DNA and you are as you train.

 

[mattyt]

Oneitis creeping into the mindset...

Strongly suggest you read 3 rules below.

Did just read the 30 rules haha.
And to be honest I was happy to walk away, then she called and stupid me gave her attention again. Learning curve, if she msgs me again I am just going to ignore.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

No it doesn't, she dumped him because she didn't want to fvck him. That changes my explanation from he didn't escalate to she got bored which makes perfect sense because she is on tinder. He also didn't say how many times after the first time they had sex. She probably got the vibe that he was looking to be her boyfriend, while she wanted to keep using tinder, which would have turned her off sex with him.

Bored + turned off. "Not ready to let him in" my @ss, haha

Yeah, the problem is OP met this girl on....... Tinder.

 

[mattyt]

Even tho I did meet the girl on tinder, if I had of seen her at a bar I would have approached. But it did fail, and she probably is lagging with her pals, lesson learned on to the next! Cheers guys

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

In my opinion Tinder (or any other other online dating site) has nothing whatsoever to do with it. I always try to focus the blame on ME. Far better for me to focus on what I could have done better.

Sure, but aren't the odds greater that the girl on Tinder is going to be a screwball compared to the woman you meet out and about?

 

[mattyt]

Sure, but aren't the odds greater that the girl on Tinder is going to be a screwball compared to the woman you meet out and about?

It's more than likely, that the single girl you meet out, is a screwball on tinder...

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

It's more than likely, that the single girl you meet out, is a screwball on tinder...

I hereby then challenge you to delete that App!

 

[mattyt]

It's always a little shocking the first few times this happens to you. But don't worry OP, after about 10-15 times you will get used to it.

Pretty soon, when it doesn't happen is when you will get surprised. Welcome back to the world of dating!

Btw, why are you wasting your time diving back into pools that have already been p*ssed in, don't you have any other options? If not prepare to be used and discarded once again

I do have a couple of options at the moment but nothing really solid. The sex was great with her and we got along really well.