"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Odd experience after dating for a bit...
- Thread starter mattyt
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She initiated it with the odd late night phone call, the day after she said that we should catch up for a drink. I sent her a msg, today and all it said was, drinks this week? She sent back a big msg saying that she's busy this week but how about next Monday???
I wrote back some time later saying if we do Monday We should do dinner, few texts exchanged and no real answer to that so I think she is just feeling her ego.
Did just read the 30 rules haha.
And to be honest I was happy to walk away, then she called and stupid me gave her attention again. Learning curve, if she msgs me again I am just going to ignore.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Yeah, the problem is OP met this girl on....... Tinder.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Sure, but aren't the odds greater that the girl on Tinder is going to be a screwball compared to the woman you meet out and about?
It's more than likely, that the single girl you meet out, is a screwball on tinder...
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
I hereby then challenge you to delete that App!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I do have a couple of options at the moment but nothing really solid. The sex was great with her and we got along really well.It's always a little shocking the first few times this happens to you. But don't worry OP, after about 10-15 times you will get used to it.
Pretty soon, when it doesn't happen is when you will get surprised. Welcome back to the world of dating!
Btw, why are you wasting your time diving back into pools that have already been p*ssed in, don't you have any other options? If not prepare to be used and discarded once again