"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Odd experience after dating for a bit...
- Thread starter mattyt
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She initiated it with the odd late night phone call, the day after she said that we should catch up for a drink. I sent her a msg, today and all it said was, drinks this week? She sent back a big msg saying that she's busy this week but how about next Monday???
I wrote back some time later saying if we do Monday We should do dinner, few texts exchanged and no real answer to that so I think she is just feeling her ego.
Did just read the 30 rules haha.
And to be honest I was happy to walk away, then she called and stupid me gave her attention again. Learning curve, if she msgs me again I am just going to ignore.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Yeah, the problem is OP met this girl on....... Tinder.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Sure, but aren't the odds greater that the girl on Tinder is going to be a screwball compared to the woman you meet out and about?
It's more than likely, that the single girl you meet out, is a screwball on tinder...
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
I hereby then challenge you to delete that App!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I do have a couple of options at the moment but nothing really solid. The sex was great with her and we got along really well.It's always a little shocking the first few times this happens to you. But don't worry OP, after about 10-15 times you will get used to it.
Pretty soon, when it doesn't happen is when you will get surprised. Welcome back to the world of dating!
Btw, why are you wasting your time diving back into pools that have already been p*ssed in, don't you have any other options? If not prepare to be used and discarded once again