"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by Fatality
I think its kind of ridiculous to hire some guy to really protect the bar just because he was charming. Tom Cruise is charming but I wouldn't want him guarding my bar. All 5'6 150lbs of him.

Next time go a little more into detail rather than give 1-2 word answers and I won't be an idiot.:rolleyes:
Not charm in the sense of a quality necessitating a bouncer, but in how I'm able to talk my way in or out of any given situation (in this case, getting hired). Otherwise, my ability to disarm people has been useful in stopping three different fights from breaking out, which is more useful than breaking up a fight that has already happened in the first place.

We actually had a guy who was only 5'6" and 150 on staff. But he could kick anyone's ass.

My last shrapnel of advice is learn how to look people in the eye as if you own them.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I was a bouncer at a club here in New York last year.

I'm 6'2 and at the time I weighed 266 pounds and I'm naturally built and solid so I had no problem getting the job.

Actually, its kind of funny how I got the job.

This guy I knew saw me at a little after hours club literally picking up chicks and using them to do arm curls and shoulder presses and stuff, ya know just having fun the chicks.

He was impressed with my build and natural strength and asked me if I wanted to do security at another club and I accepted.

I'm not a bouncer anymore and I've slimmed down to a more toned 232 pounds but I'm still strong as a bull and I'm always ready to kick ass if I have to.
 
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