"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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leeman67

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Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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leeman67 said:
Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
Not a clue !
 

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When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.

Neediness and addiction are both parts of oneitis and are not indicative of true love.
 

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When you can openly fart in her presence without worrying about it, it's love.

Dead serious.
 

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Haha... two previous posts by rollo and kontroller are great!

I think its when you wanna be with her unconditionally, and she feels the same way about you....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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KontrollerX said:
When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.

Neediness and addiction are both parts of oneitis and are not indicative of true love.


Can you please reclarifiy for me. I read it a couple of times and I was taking it as examples of both. as in obsession being...

KontrollerX said:
When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and


True love being...

when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.
 

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leeman67 said:
Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
Quick answer: When you know that your feelings for her are mutual.
 

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the word love is like the word God - everyone uses it but hardly anyone knows anything about it and no two people have the same definition of it.
 
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