"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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leeman67

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Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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leeman67 said:
Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
Not a clue !
 

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When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.

Neediness and addiction are both parts of oneitis and are not indicative of true love.
 

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When you can openly fart in her presence without worrying about it, it's love.

Dead serious.
 

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Haha... two previous posts by rollo and kontroller are great!

I think its when you wanna be with her unconditionally, and she feels the same way about you....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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KontrollerX said:
When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.

Neediness and addiction are both parts of oneitis and are not indicative of true love.


Can you please reclarifiy for me. I read it a couple of times and I was taking it as examples of both. as in obsession being...

KontrollerX said:
When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and


True love being...

when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.
 

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leeman67 said:
Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
Quick answer: When you know that your feelings for her are mutual.
 

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the word love is like the word God - everyone uses it but hardly anyone knows anything about it and no two people have the same definition of it.
 
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