"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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leeman67

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Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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leeman67 said:
Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
Not a clue !
 

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When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.

Neediness and addiction are both parts of oneitis and are not indicative of true love.
 

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When you can openly fart in her presence without worrying about it, it's love.

Dead serious.
 

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Haha... two previous posts by rollo and kontroller are great!

I think its when you wanna be with her unconditionally, and she feels the same way about you....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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KontrollerX said:
When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.

Neediness and addiction are both parts of oneitis and are not indicative of true love.


Can you please reclarifiy for me. I read it a couple of times and I was taking it as examples of both. as in obsession being...

KontrollerX said:
When she has sufficiently acheived your interest to the point you are not interested in dating anyone else and when you can reasonably say that you are not addicted to her or need her to survive but you do greatly desire her company as often as possible and


True love being...

when you both have a mutual respect for eachother and eachother's boundaries then you are genuinely in love.
 

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leeman67 said:
Upfront, I dont know if this is discussed in the DJ bible or not. To be honest, I work such long hours. I just havnt had time to read it.

Quick question..


How do you really know if you are in love with a woman vs just Obessing over her?
Quick answer: When you know that your feelings for her are mutual.
 

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the word love is like the word God - everyone uses it but hardly anyone knows anything about it and no two people have the same definition of it.
 
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