"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Observation from Germany

yake

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Hi. I live in a small town in Germany. In my state, our town has the highest percentage of foreigners. They roughly split into two groups: turks and russians. Now, I don't mind them living here, that's not what this post is about. But, they seem to be a great example of confidence. A lot of these guys are veeery confident. In the case of the turks, they are usually skinny but move around in groups and wear nice clothes. In the case of the russians, they usually work out, are relatively buff but don'T necessairly move around in flocks. The people in both of these groups are more confident than the average german. But then, there are the confident germans, as well. They are either big and strong like the russians, or have tons of friends to protect them, or both. All three of these groups are more successfull than skinny germans (or half germans in my case) of course. But, then there are the handsome skinny guys with confidence. They get the smaller but pretties women.
Yeah, I know, this all sounds like a bunch of stereotypes, but for the most part, it's true.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thats cool?
i'll be in garmisch germany in january. and hten munich for one night. :)
 

ChrizZ

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I´m also from Germany. It´s true. I think the reason for this is because people from turkey are more outgoing. They are usually raised with a lot of sisters and aren´t "afraid" of women because of that. The Russians are the gangsta types. Kinda like the gangsta black dudes in the US.
 
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