penkitten
Master Don Juan
interceptor, whomever wrote that, has a much better way with words than i do!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Objective: The New Recruit Briefing!
- Thread starter Victory Unlimited
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
And of course a lot of dudes have to lean on the female, which is what much of this board can be about, leaning on the female, looking to her for strength, looking at her to give him purpose, and chucking the important stuff in order to try to get that from her full-time. Guilty.
But once a man realizes that doesn't work, (usually after being burned REALLY badly) he can flip it around and do things the right way.
But once a man realizes that doesn't work, (usually after being burned REALLY badly) he can flip it around and do things the right way.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
which is exactly why this board is here, to help them realize what direction to take.reset said:
what a good statement reset.
kickureface
Master Don Juan
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do you guys have more plans for this post?
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Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
Yo Kickureface,
The primary objectives behind this thread was to first point out the potential trap that awaits men who mistake simply the acquisition of strategies and tactics with the actual accomplishment of INTERNALIZING the core things that ultimately make a man truly become a BETTER man.
To reach this goal, we plan on posting reminders LIKE this one in the general discussion, the tips section, and other places just to keep the awareness that there should be HIGHER goals here than ONLY attracting the women we want into our lives------and one of them is becoming the kind of man who can KEEP them wanting to remain in our lives.
The right women are great and can be a most valuable asset in the lives of men, but they should only be a byproduct of a life filled with many other great achievements. But because this IS a dating site, we would be remiss if we did NOT address this subjects as frequently and specifically as we do.
But in addressing it, our goal is to also point out, evaluate, and FIX (if need be) the underlying issues that may impede us in our progress to obtain healthier and more fulfilling outlooks on women and relationships.
And Kickureface,
ONE way I'd suggest you continue to advance on your OWN path of continued development would be to seek out, read, and take the time to contemplate threads on Sosuave that get to "the crux" of a lot of our relationship/manhood issues as opposed to the ones that just skim the surface-------like the ones that are already listed in my signature lines below (that is, if you haven't read them already...).
And don't just stop THERE.
Many of the brave men and women who have posted in THIS very thread, I'm sure, have just as many threads that they've authored, OR ones that they'd like to recommend to the troops on here too-----threads that offer a more lasting solution to problems, and not just a "quick fix".
I only ask that those who do choose to get with this program of self-awareness, self-reflection, and self-improvement do so with an OPEN MIND.
If the things that we post or recommend ring true to you------take it to heart. But if the things that we post or recommend don't ring true to you----------leave it alone.
And if you find there are things that we post or recommend give you pause, or you take issue with, or you have questions about------then feel free to use them as FUEL to fire up a respectful DISCUSSION amongst all of us soldiers who are in the process of marching along the SAME path.
March on.
The primary objectives behind this thread was to first point out the potential trap that awaits men who mistake simply the acquisition of strategies and tactics with the actual accomplishment of INTERNALIZING the core things that ultimately make a man truly become a BETTER man.
To reach this goal, we plan on posting reminders LIKE this one in the general discussion, the tips section, and other places just to keep the awareness that there should be HIGHER goals here than ONLY attracting the women we want into our lives------and one of them is becoming the kind of man who can KEEP them wanting to remain in our lives.
The right women are great and can be a most valuable asset in the lives of men, but they should only be a byproduct of a life filled with many other great achievements. But because this IS a dating site, we would be remiss if we did NOT address this subjects as frequently and specifically as we do.
But in addressing it, our goal is to also point out, evaluate, and FIX (if need be) the underlying issues that may impede us in our progress to obtain healthier and more fulfilling outlooks on women and relationships.
And Kickureface,
ONE way I'd suggest you continue to advance on your OWN path of continued development would be to seek out, read, and take the time to contemplate threads on Sosuave that get to "the crux" of a lot of our relationship/manhood issues as opposed to the ones that just skim the surface-------like the ones that are already listed in my signature lines below (that is, if you haven't read them already...).
And don't just stop THERE.
Many of the brave men and women who have posted in THIS very thread, I'm sure, have just as many threads that they've authored, OR ones that they'd like to recommend to the troops on here too-----threads that offer a more lasting solution to problems, and not just a "quick fix".
I only ask that those who do choose to get with this program of self-awareness, self-reflection, and self-improvement do so with an OPEN MIND.
If the things that we post or recommend ring true to you------take it to heart. But if the things that we post or recommend don't ring true to you----------leave it alone.
And if you find there are things that we post or recommend give you pause, or you take issue with, or you have questions about------then feel free to use them as FUEL to fire up a respectful DISCUSSION amongst all of us soldiers who are in the process of marching along the SAME path.
March on.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
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Interceptor
Master Don Juan
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You are your Devil, but you are your Angel as well.
Whatever you resist, persists.
Whatever you embrace, you gain power to use.
The only REAL Help, is Self Help.
Do not wallow in Self Pity.
You are your Devil, but you are your Angel as well.
Whatever you resist, persists.
Whatever you embrace, you gain power to use.
The only REAL Help, is Self Help.
Do not wallow in Self Pity.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Everything you have EVER WANTED has actually been OUTSIDE of your COMFORT ZONE.
All your Life is simply a collection of your Expereinces, all your Experiences are simply your HABITS, and your (often Self Limiting) BELIEFS.
Gentlemen, I implore you.......
UNderstand that your Suffering is because of not what you LACK but because YOU are NOT MOVING Forward.
Yes, you do not SEE these things you want in your Life right now.
This DOES NOT MEAN you CANNOT Have them, or are not deserving of it!
But you must PUT YOURSELF in the SPACE READY TO RECEIVE THEM AND APPRECIATE THEM!!!
Do you understand??!!
Do you??
It is all your Mind Set!!
IF you believe ONLY in "I lack (insert object here) ", then you will ONLY "SEE" "Evidence" that YOU LACK!!
Your Goals are NOT WOMEN.
Your Goal is to IMPROVE your LIFE and Enrich your Experiences.......
..AND GET RID OF THOSE SELF LIMITING BELIEFS AND DESTRUCTIVE HABITS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How can you EXPECT success when you are NOT taking steps to move forward??
"Character is DESTINY."
What is YOUR Destiny??!
Build your CHARACTER , gentlemen.
It ain't what some of you wanted to hear........but this is your Salvation.
Only you can do this for yourself.
All your Life is simply a collection of your Expereinces, all your Experiences are simply your HABITS, and your (often Self Limiting) BELIEFS.
Gentlemen, I implore you.......
UNderstand that your Suffering is because of not what you LACK but because YOU are NOT MOVING Forward.
Yes, you do not SEE these things you want in your Life right now.
This DOES NOT MEAN you CANNOT Have them, or are not deserving of it!
But you must PUT YOURSELF in the SPACE READY TO RECEIVE THEM AND APPRECIATE THEM!!!
Do you understand??!!
Do you??
It is all your Mind Set!!
IF you believe ONLY in "I lack (insert object here) ", then you will ONLY "SEE" "Evidence" that YOU LACK!!
Your Goals are NOT WOMEN.
Your Goal is to IMPROVE your LIFE and Enrich your Experiences.......
..AND GET RID OF THOSE SELF LIMITING BELIEFS AND DESTRUCTIVE HABITS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How can you EXPECT success when you are NOT taking steps to move forward??
"Character is DESTINY."
What is YOUR Destiny??!
Build your CHARACTER , gentlemen.
It ain't what some of you wanted to hear........but this is your Salvation.
Only you can do this for yourself.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Interceptor said:
words to live by!
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Been meaning to bump this.
Please try to develop a "discerning mind", and learn new patterns to think about yourself, women, and the world.
(While I may not have too much free time at the moment I will try to answer your questions as best as I can.)
Please try to develop a "discerning mind", and learn new patterns to think about yourself, women, and the world.
(While I may not have too much free time at the moment I will try to answer your questions as best as I can.)
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
C.O.B.R.A. wants YOU!
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
What "the FUKK" is going on around here these days????
"MAN UP", my Band of Brothers!!!
RESPECT.
VU
"MAN UP", my Band of Brothers!!!
RESPECT.
VU
Cockynfunny
Don Juan
WOOOOOH! HEELL YEAH!!!! I AM READY FOR THE BATTLE, sir.
My weapon of mass seduction is all cleaned up and polished up...
No time to waste on chit chat
p.S going to chapter two!
My weapon of mass seduction is all cleaned up and polished up...
No time to waste on chit chat
p.S going to chapter two!