Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Victory Unlimited said:Although my Gladiator Scenario is still hypothetical, for some, it's already an "experienced" REALITY. Ask General Vulpine...
And one other thing:
Most guys usually have NO idea that they are being invited to a Gladiator Scenario / C0ck Party----they only find out AFTER they've already shown up. This post is to make people aware of just how VISCIOUS and MANIPULATIVE some of the female mindsets really can be.
A woman I met online is doing something similar. She's invited me to meet up at a concert of this local musician she knows (likes); she said I could take a look at my competition, WTF??!!Latinoman said:WOW...I just read this:
She told me that last month; she threw herself a party and invited ALL the guys she knew who were interested in her. At the party, she was doing her little social butterfly thing---never spending too much time with ONE, but flirting with them all. ..
...When I asked her who she ended up with, she said “NOBODY”. But she said she did have FUN watching them jockeying for position though. She thought less of them ALL. Hah! The bored “princess” wins...and I say-----FUKKK THAT.
I would still do my thing as described (get other men's respect)...and then if any of the HB in the party shows an interest...talk with that HB. In fact, I might end up with another HB.
I am NOT a guinea pig for any woman. And NOW that you know this little game of her...next time you two go in a date with her and she turns her face around...be straight to the point: "Hey...are we going to phuck or not?" I mean...not that direct...but you get the point.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No man it's: Left,right,left,right,up,down,up,down A-B-A-B Start.ER!C L!VE said:This ALWAYS works: Up Up Up Up A B C Down Down X Y Z Start
I agree 100%.JustDoItAlways said:It is important to post follow-up this-is-what-finally-happened posts. The board cannot really help anyone if we don't know what finally happened in the end.
Thanks.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Informative enough to waste 4 months of effort on? Perhaps the purpose of your life is to serve as a warning for the rest of us?Victory Unlimited said:She would never commit to a date and time. No, it was always "iffy".
So it's an old story guys. She had LOW INTEREST in me from start to finish. I have no doubts now that any chick who would knowingly invite a guy to an event and act the way she did is obviously ON THE FENCE about the guy in the first place.
She wanted to keep me spinning as a DECORATIVE plate so it would boost her value amongst her friends and with her "old" boyfriend who I'm sure WAS and still IS banging her. But the experience was still informative.
That girl had so many red flags to start with that I wouldn't have stuck around to see it finished.Victory Unlimited said:So it's an old story guys. She had LOW INTEREST in me from start to finish.
Red Flag for having kids. Half of her time is devouted for her work and the other half for her kids, which will leave the least amount of time for you. Not to mentioned that her kids will come first, she will see you as their next daddy and you will be raising someone elses kids and the fact that their father will never really be out of the picture. That is a tall order to start with.Victory Unlimited said:She’s a professional woman with 2 kids,
Red Flag. I wouldn't call it a snag, more like I am bad with money.Victory Unlimited said:currently living with her mom temporarily due to a snag in her home buying plans. UPDATE: She recently just closed on her brand new house a couple of weeks ago, so she’s in the process of moving NOW.
Another red flag for lying. Women who say they are shy are usually not and tend to be a demon in a sack behind closed doors. Notice that she mentioned "she been in 3 LTRs her whole life"? what she failed to mentioned are all the other guys she fvcked on a STR's which will probably be in the double digits zone. She is no angel. Women hide short term relationships in order to not be deemed a slvt.Victory Unlimited said:She’s a shy chick (so she says) who has only been in 3 LTRs her whole life.
A month ago was November, and back whenever, VU said the chick was moving. Moving and unpacking takes a considerable amount of time. It's not really 4 months, it's 3.Victory Unlimited said:The Gladiator Scenario actually happened. AND with the girl in question. It took place a month ago at her housewarming party. By this time I had begun to lose all interest in this chick, so when she called out of the blue and invited me, I was surprised but NOT impressed.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.