"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Maxwell

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Firstly, a disclaimer; I am a virgin who has never dated, so I am speaking from observation of others, and I'm open to being told I am totally wrong. I hope I am, in fact.

But in regards to having more than one sex partner, either at a time, or within a small time frame, there seems to be a big problem.

Most girls I know seem to follow the "no sex without a LTR" mantra; they won't have sex until you've dated them for a while, they won't have sex if you have a GF, and they won't have sex if they know you've hooked up with someone else recently. In this environment, how can one lay several without only getting one every 6 months or whatever, and having more trouble hooking up all the time as your reputation as a "player" spreads and women shun you like the Bird Flu?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jitterbug

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You're asking an Intermediate question when you're still at Total Beginner level. Go out, get numbers, get some dates and then find out for yourself whether those girls are only saying so and not actually sticking to their words.
 

cockerdumbnuts

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girl are not logical. they are emotional. you're asking them a logical question and getting a response to what they think they want. but if you spark their emotions, all that ltr bs is forgotten about. at least in that moment.

so get out there and learn.
 

oakraiderz2

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How would two complete strangers know that youre hooking up with both of them? Everyone isnt connected.
 

Maxwell

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oakraiderz2 said:
How would two complete strangers know that youre hooking up with both of them? Everyone isnt connected.
Not everyone, but in communities like university campuses, towns and suburbs word gets around, and lots of people know each other.

Thanks for the advice Jitterbug and ****erdumbnuts. At present I've deferred university for year to get over my OCD, which means I'm in a town populated almost entirely by children and oldies, but once uni starts next Feb I'll be jumping in there. At this point, all I can do is theorise.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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