"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Maxwell

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Firstly, a disclaimer; I am a virgin who has never dated, so I am speaking from observation of others, and I'm open to being told I am totally wrong. I hope I am, in fact.

But in regards to having more than one sex partner, either at a time, or within a small time frame, there seems to be a big problem.

Most girls I know seem to follow the "no sex without a LTR" mantra; they won't have sex until you've dated them for a while, they won't have sex if you have a GF, and they won't have sex if they know you've hooked up with someone else recently. In this environment, how can one lay several without only getting one every 6 months or whatever, and having more trouble hooking up all the time as your reputation as a "player" spreads and women shun you like the Bird Flu?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jitterbug

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You're asking an Intermediate question when you're still at Total Beginner level. Go out, get numbers, get some dates and then find out for yourself whether those girls are only saying so and not actually sticking to their words.
 

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girl are not logical. they are emotional. you're asking them a logical question and getting a response to what they think they want. but if you spark their emotions, all that ltr bs is forgotten about. at least in that moment.

so get out there and learn.
 

oakraiderz2

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How would two complete strangers know that youre hooking up with both of them? Everyone isnt connected.
 

Maxwell

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oakraiderz2 said:
How would two complete strangers know that youre hooking up with both of them? Everyone isnt connected.
Not everyone, but in communities like university campuses, towns and suburbs word gets around, and lots of people know each other.

Thanks for the advice Jitterbug and ****erdumbnuts. At present I've deferred university for year to get over my OCD, which means I'm in a town populated almost entirely by children and oldies, but once uni starts next Feb I'll be jumping in there. At this point, all I can do is theorise.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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