"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Number close - now what?

Alittude

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Ok well I just number closed this chick who I originally talked to on myspace and now have been chatting to on msn. Anyway we discovered that we were both at the same place at new years and she actually saw me and my mates playing a game of soccer on a beach but we didn't recognise each other at the time. I then said we should catch up some time to talk about it and she said awesome. I then asked for the number and she took quite a long time to answer but then the number came out and we exchanged numbers.

Now I'm wondering what to do. I have no idea or experience what to do from here. How many days should I wait, call or text and when should I suggest meeting up?

Any advice on these subjects would be awesome.
By the way I usually don't waste my time online but this chick sounds cool and its quite hot so may as well give it a shot.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Deacon

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The 3 day rule never worked for me. I always texted a chick I # closed right after the night is over, but since you got this number over the internet it's a little different. I'd text her the day after you got her number and be like "hey this is _____ from myspace," she'll probably respond. I usually text back and forth for a little bit for that day, then the day after I usually call up the chick and ask her out. This doesn't have the highest of success rates for me, so I'd suggest not putting all your eggs in one basket. This approach has worked for me in the past though. It's all about balls.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Call the girl up tonight or tomorrow. Figure out first what you're gonna do then, make the plans with her. If you don't know what to do on the actuall date. Then, you got some studying to do!
 

Rata Blanca

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Call her soon, take her to a park, beach, etc
 

silverwolfalpha

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girls all have memory lapses. Also girls nowdays r soooo busy.
gotta txt/call asap. Set up plan A with time,date. Then B with alternate time/date. Then C. No way could she slip out then.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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L B

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Giver her a call when you are ready to set up the date. Have several options ready. Also remember that just because you have her number doesn't mean that she will automatically go out with you. Don't be too hurt if she gives you the run around.
 
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