"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A lot of it probably has to do with the fear of popping an obvious b0ner. After all, there are naked women present.

Besides, the male genitalia, while functional, are awkward. Imagine walking around the office with a monkey-wrench strapped to your belt. The form just looks ridiculous. At least animals have it retract up inside them when they aren't using it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I wouldn't be nude around someone who isn't comfortable with it simply because it's rude, but being nude around other guys is certainly not 'gay' or strange in any way. It's what people did for thousands of years. It's no more 'animalistic' than sex.
 

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Victorian sexual taboos are alive and well in the U.S. Men live in terror of being imagined gay, terrified they won't "measure up" to other males.

This fear over rides the desire to display TRUE masculine behavior of showing off the very thing that makes them MALE!
 

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I'm around gays, bi's, and trannies all the time. I spend most of my weekends in Manhattan. I have no problem with them at all. As long as they know to respect the boundaries with me, then I don't mind being around them. It's when they don't, that pisses me off. But the greater majority of times they respect the boundaries. These people are some of the coolest people. And let me tell you all one other thing: lots of these gay looking guys who are actually into women, pull lots of fine women. You can always walk into any club in the east or west village in Manhattan and see some faggy looking guy grinding or making out with some hot b*tch.
 

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^^^Have you and/or these men been naked around each other?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The logic (or lack there of) of some women (and a whole lot of guys) is really baffling. This is a false dilemma, it is simplistic and silly. I do not like seeing naked men. To suggest that the reason I do not like seeing the pole of another man is because it makes me feel inadequate is simply STUPID! I do not like cigarette smoke, does that also mean I am jealous or insecure that the smoker has a longer cigarette or can blow bigger smoke than I can? There is ZERO logic in this assumption.

Naked men are disgusting and I would rather not have that garbage in my face. The men who would disrobe in front of these other men are simply male attention wh0res. Screaming "hey look at me" by taking off ones clothes reeks of desperate 16 year old boy, who just got his drivers license.
 
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The logic (or lack there of) of some women (and a whole lot of guys) is really baffling. This is a false dilemma, it is simplistic and silly. I do not like seeing naked men. To suggest that reason I do not like seeing the pole of another man is because it makes me feel inadequate is simply STUPID! I do not like cigarette smoke, does that also mean I am jealous or insecure that the smoker has a longer cigarette or can blow bigger smoke than I can? There is ZERO logic in this assumption.
^^^^
This.
 
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