You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
There was a programme on in the UK, a couple of weeks ago about Catfishing.Is there a smartphone app to see how different some women look without makeup? How saggy their t!tts are without that pushup bra?
How much botox?
Talk about calling the kettle black.....
makes no sense to lie, it's not that lying makes you taller ,lmao so sad.Men lie about their height alot. I'm assuming now that the average height for males is an inch lower or atleast a half an inch.
My job requires me to check IDs, now before I never looked at height but it popped in my head due to the height threads on this board.
Off hand on my last day of work 3 guys had 5"11 on their IDs, one guy was atleast 2 inches shorter than me maybe more as he was barely above my eye level. Other guy had 5"11 and was a maybe half an inch shorter than me and the other guy who had 5"11 on ID was 5"9 ish.
My point is all that average height stuff is a big lie. Most men are probably on average 5"8 1/2 to 5"9. 25
I'm 5"10.25 so seeing these dudes claim their heights was kind of funny unless I'm measuring myself wrong and I'm taller. I use a tape measure but heard it's inaccurate and makes you shorter. Who knows point is most dudes are not that "tall" and neither are women, average height for women is probably 5"2 1/2.
Me being 5"10 my eye level is 5"6 I rarely see women at my eye level. Most are below my nose
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This might be the most depressing post I've ever read here.Had one single mom telling me she had a date with a guy, they had great time on evening, the guy asking her for another date that she said will get back to him later on.. Tells me she purposely become distance afterward because hes 5'4 and laughs at it when she recall the situation. Anf shes 5'5
Go figure.
Crazy technology we now have. Though, the LiDAR cam option in the pro ain't cheap. Not too sure if many will have so quickly. Though, I am sure the android makers are coming out with cheaper versions of phones with LiDAR cams. Soon there will be zero privacy.
my opinion: It's OVER for shortcels.![]()
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It's a waste of time taking women on elaborate dates these days. You have to make a move quickly to find out if they're feeling you.This might be the most depressing post I've ever read here.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.