You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
There was a programme on in the UK, a couple of weeks ago about Catfishing.Is there a smartphone app to see how different some women look without makeup? How saggy their t!tts are without that pushup bra?
How much botox?
Talk about calling the kettle black.....
makes no sense to lie, it's not that lying makes you taller ,lmao so sad.Men lie about their height alot. I'm assuming now that the average height for males is an inch lower or atleast a half an inch.
My job requires me to check IDs, now before I never looked at height but it popped in my head due to the height threads on this board.
Off hand on my last day of work 3 guys had 5"11 on their IDs, one guy was atleast 2 inches shorter than me maybe more as he was barely above my eye level. Other guy had 5"11 and was a maybe half an inch shorter than me and the other guy who had 5"11 on ID was 5"9 ish.
My point is all that average height stuff is a big lie. Most men are probably on average 5"8 1/2 to 5"9. 25
I'm 5"10.25 so seeing these dudes claim their heights was kind of funny unless I'm measuring myself wrong and I'm taller. I use a tape measure but heard it's inaccurate and makes you shorter. Who knows point is most dudes are not that "tall" and neither are women, average height for women is probably 5"2 1/2.
Me being 5"10 my eye level is 5"6 I rarely see women at my eye level. Most are below my nose
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This might be the most depressing post I've ever read here.Had one single mom telling me she had a date with a guy, they had great time on evening, the guy asking her for another date that she said will get back to him later on.. Tells me she purposely become distance afterward because hes 5'4 and laughs at it when she recall the situation. Anf shes 5'5
Go figure.
Crazy technology we now have. Though, the LiDAR cam option in the pro ain't cheap. Not too sure if many will have so quickly. Though, I am sure the android makers are coming out with cheaper versions of phones with LiDAR cams. Soon there will be zero privacy.
my opinion: It's OVER for shortcels.![]()
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It's a waste of time taking women on elaborate dates these days. You have to make a move quickly to find out if they're feeling you.This might be the most depressing post I've ever read here.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.