"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not too sure what’s going on here ...

Aesthetix29

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Hi, it’s been a while ......

Met this girl just after Xmas ... we started texting .. met for drinks multiple times now ... it’s been around 5 weeks ... me personally isn’t looking for something too serious ... she wants a relationship.

Thing is it’s been almost 5 weeks now and we’re not escalating.

She’s nothing special like a 5/6/10.

What’s happening ... tempted to just say this isn’t working ...

I hate social media but I posted something earlier which was not about her was actually about my brother but regardless 5 mins later she messaged me asking what it was about .... so she saw it and thought is that about me .. ?

Is she playing games .. attention seeking or what. ? At a loss with this one ha ha.

Danny
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Aesthetix29

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She's trying to get your attention because she likes you.
What you think she’s holding back because she likes me ?

I know she wants more ... I think it’s a relationship she wants, oh I got a death grip hand job 2 weeks back but nothing since.

Weird

Danny.
 

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What you think she’s holding back because she likes me ?

I know she wants more ... I think it’s a relationship she wants, oh I got a death grip hand job 2 weeks back but nothing since.

Weird

Danny.
I'd just be straight up and tell her its not working and that you can't be with someone who isn't interested in you in that way.
 

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If you have no intention of having a relationship and she does then you should stop trying to date her. If you're unsure about what she wants then you should have a conversation about it next time you see her (if you see her) and make it clear that you only want something casual.

Communication is an effective time saver. You'll probably get a better answer out of her than what any of us on the forum can give.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Why arent you escalating?

You've been around since 2014 so you're not some 16 year old.

5 weeks and only a handie? WTH?
 

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Okay so after reading the replies, clearly some mistakes have been made here mainly down to me not knowing what I want or wanting to commit ... I’ve messaged her saying that I’d like to talk too her next time u see her .... of course this has sent her cogs spinning ha ha ... but I just need to know where’s we stand. Thanks
 

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Bro just escalate. If she wants a relationship with you, it means she likes you. You have the power in this, so keep making moves ffs
 
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