There's a girl who works at the bank I go to frequently. We talk about each others lives every time I go in. I started getting a crush on her. She seemed so interested in me, too. Because she works at a very small/quiet bank, I decided it would be really inappropriate to ask for her her number there. I didn't want to embarrass her or make her feel uncomfortable at work. Instead, I gave her a quick note with my number on it. I just told her that I think she is pleasant and it would be lovely to take her out to dinner some time. She never contacted me. Now I'm wondering if I should just avoid that bank from now on? I don't want to seem clingy or like I'm trying to see her after she obviously rejected me.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Not sure what I should do
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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I did the same thing to a cashier once at a grocery store. Don't change your patterns. Just go about your business as usual. The only way you'll seem clingy is if you keep asking her out or why she never texted you or complimenting her or smiling cheesily at her.
Just go in there, do your business (whatever withdrawal or deposit you have to do) and leave. Don't make small talk. Just say hi, maintain strong eye contact (it will make her want to sh!t in her pants) do your business and leave.
Act like her saying no was never a big deal.
Just go in there, do your business (whatever withdrawal or deposit you have to do) and leave. Don't make small talk. Just say hi, maintain strong eye contact (it will make her want to sh!t in her pants) do your business and leave.
Act like her saying no was never a big deal.
