There's a girl who works at the bank I go to frequently. We talk about each others lives every time I go in. I started getting a crush on her. She seemed so interested in me, too. Because she works at a very small/quiet bank, I decided it would be really inappropriate to ask for her her number there. I didn't want to embarrass her or make her feel uncomfortable at work. Instead, I gave her a quick note with my number on it. I just told her that I think she is pleasant and it would be lovely to take her out to dinner some time. She never contacted me. Now I'm wondering if I should just avoid that bank from now on? I don't want to seem clingy or like I'm trying to see her after she obviously rejected me.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Not sure what I should do
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I did the same thing to a cashier once at a grocery store. Don't change your patterns. Just go about your business as usual. The only way you'll seem clingy is if you keep asking her out or why she never texted you or complimenting her or smiling cheesily at her.
Just go in there, do your business (whatever withdrawal or deposit you have to do) and leave. Don't make small talk. Just say hi, maintain strong eye contact (it will make her want to sh!t in her pants) do your business and leave.
Act like her saying no was never a big deal.
Just go in there, do your business (whatever withdrawal or deposit you have to do) and leave. Don't make small talk. Just say hi, maintain strong eye contact (it will make her want to sh!t in her pants) do your business and leave.
Act like her saying no was never a big deal.
