Hi guys, thanks for your response
A bit more background on the other three blokes. She was in 2+ years with them all, and from what she's told me they were abusive/violet and for her into drugs temporarily, I'm various capacities
I've googled the SMV and from what I've read Id score highly on the chart, specifically from personality/height/looks/stability etc so I'm not sure that's a factor at play here
A key point I fsiled to mention is that we work in the same office area, where I've been for 2 years and she says she has had her eye on me all that time but never felt confident enough to approach me or let me know. So potentially I have 2 years of interest level generated there for me. Sexually we also have a strong dom/sub relationship, with myself being the dominant
"Does she put it out there so it can just exist...or is she expecting you to respond"
When she told me I did not respond in kind, I told her there was potential over time. I do feel this is significant as she had no reason to tell me this asside from the fact to get it out or off her chest
Dude, read the part in bold several times. Try to think from a logical place and temporarily set aside your emotions.
Analyze this like you were just reading it for the firsttime and try to imagine that someone else had wriiten it.
Ok, so she's dated three other guys that were ALL physically abusive right? That right there tells me she is drawn to and gravitates toward abusive men. Either that or her judge of character is seriously flawed. Either one is bad news.
Next: DRUG USAGE- So they made her use and abuse drugs? She takes no responsibilty for it? And it took her 2.5 years to wise up about what type of people they were she should have learned her lesson from the first guy.
She is playing the victim and you WILL get burned. You are the proverbial nice guy, but she loves bad boys. The fact that you posted here tells me that your gut is warning you. She fell in love with you in seven weeks? Or after the bad boys got through playing with her body, heart, mind and soul. Thats what she is going to do to yours.
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She told me recently she has felt 'needy' and 'insecure' with three of her serious exes, but "with me she does not feel that".
You don't get her wet like the bad boys do. She doesn't have that longing, that desire, that passion that knot in her stomach that comes from not knowing whats gonna happen next and she loves feeling that way!
How old are you two? What type of work?what does she look like? 1-10 scale?
