"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not so great on my text game

Kleenhanz

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Little backstory: So the other night I met this chick around my age at a bar. We exchanged numbers, and I went home. The next day (yesterday) she started texting me asking what's up, and after I told her I was at work she mentioned she would "like to do something together sometime". I told her sure, but didn't expand on it because I was really busy. We just continued to exchange a few meaningless texts until the conversation died off.

Now, I'm not sure what to do. She obviously wants to go out on a date with me, but I feel if I text her too soon she will get the sense that I'm too clingy. Then again, she has been fairly aggressive and I feel if I don't reply soon enough she will go cold.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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amoka

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Renegade357 said:
Uhh, you're not supposed to text her. You're supposed to wait 4-5 days and call her to ask her out. Stop killing challenge.
That is not entirely true. The reason why it is suggested to wait certain number of days before contacting a chick after getting digits is to calm down on the anxiety of meeting a chick. If a chick establishes a good comfort with you, there is no harm in talking to her the same day you acquire her digits, particularly when they contact you first as in the case of the OP. In fact, I would suggest you get in touch a woman you meet at a bar or a club the same night , if you can, so as to give her something to remind her of you since countless of otherwise men more than likely approached her that night.

OP: texting is not for everyone , I am no fun of it either. In situation such as yours, I would have simply told her " I am at work, I'll contact you later". This simple response serves several purposes:
1. You are a working man and value your work seriously .
2. You make her wait, which women hate.
3. Gives you time to plan where and when to take, which chicks dig because they know you know your shyt .
Then CALL her.
 

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Perhaps just slow it down, let her crave you, and plan a light date to make sure you click and that SHE is not the clingy, needy one.
 

Greasy Pig

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Don't leave it too long though. She's showing high IL and a lot of what I've read on these boards is that you should strike while the iron is hot.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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georgie24

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Like it or Not texting is now right up there with real life in person social skills

do a bit of research on Good/bad texting methods, because it matters
 
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