"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Not so great on my text game

Kleenhanz

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Little backstory: So the other night I met this chick around my age at a bar. We exchanged numbers, and I went home. The next day (yesterday) she started texting me asking what's up, and after I told her I was at work she mentioned she would "like to do something together sometime". I told her sure, but didn't expand on it because I was really busy. We just continued to exchange a few meaningless texts until the conversation died off.

Now, I'm not sure what to do. She obviously wants to go out on a date with me, but I feel if I text her too soon she will get the sense that I'm too clingy. Then again, she has been fairly aggressive and I feel if I don't reply soon enough she will go cold.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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amoka

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Renegade357 said:
Uhh, you're not supposed to text her. You're supposed to wait 4-5 days and call her to ask her out. Stop killing challenge.
That is not entirely true. The reason why it is suggested to wait certain number of days before contacting a chick after getting digits is to calm down on the anxiety of meeting a chick. If a chick establishes a good comfort with you, there is no harm in talking to her the same day you acquire her digits, particularly when they contact you first as in the case of the OP. In fact, I would suggest you get in touch a woman you meet at a bar or a club the same night , if you can, so as to give her something to remind her of you since countless of otherwise men more than likely approached her that night.

OP: texting is not for everyone , I am no fun of it either. In situation such as yours, I would have simply told her " I am at work, I'll contact you later". This simple response serves several purposes:
1. You are a working man and value your work seriously .
2. You make her wait, which women hate.
3. Gives you time to plan where and when to take, which chicks dig because they know you know your shyt .
Then CALL her.
 

VladPatton

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Perhaps just slow it down, let her crave you, and plan a light date to make sure you click and that SHE is not the clingy, needy one.
 

Greasy Pig

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Don't leave it too long though. She's showing high IL and a lot of what I've read on these boards is that you should strike while the iron is hot.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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georgie24

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Like it or Not texting is now right up there with real life in person social skills

do a bit of research on Good/bad texting methods, because it matters
 
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