"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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not returning sms, I hate this!!1

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To cut the story short:
I was out with my friend and I see this cute girl and I start dancing with her. I was dancing with her she was smiling, yada, yada, not complaining, I leave, come back in 10 min, some guy is trying to dance with her, I step between them and she doesn't mind that I got there instead of that other guy...
I ask her name and tell her to guess mine. She guessed it from first try.
Now I go for number close. Let's exchange numbers, I say. She asks me how old I am. I say 22. She says that I'm a little young since she's 25. I say so what, that isn't a problem (and it isn't. Maybe I am more mature, but I can talk with older girls, there is no playing games and all that sh1t younger chicks pull on you). Well she hesitated and told me to give her my number. I take her phone and call my own cell (so we both have numbers). In the end she shakes my hand and tells me "I am glad we met", smiling and all.
Now I text massage her next morning (sunday), and get no answer. It was a stupid message, but still...
I text message everyone, even my best friends, cause I hate talking on the phone.

My question is, should I send her a text on wednesday, but she can not answer. Should I call her, and from my home so she doesn't know who's calling her so she'll pick up. Or thinking about it, if she doesn't want to pick up my number, why call her from another number. Pointless.
I think the main problem is in that she thinks I'm too young for her (I'm 4th year college. She finished college and is already working. But from the maturity point of view, I think we're at the same level.)
Anyway, if there isn't any reply I next her a s s.
What would you do?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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napoleon said:
To cut the story short:
I was out with my friend and I see this cute girl and I start dancing with her. I was dancing with her she was smiling, yada, yada, not complaining, I leave, come back in 10 min, some guy is trying to dance with her, I step between them and she doesn't mind that I got there instead of that other guy...
I ask her name and tell her to guess mine. She guessed it from first try.
Now I go for number close. Let's exchange numbers, I say. She asks me how old I am. I say 22. She says that I'm a little young since she's 25. I say so what, that isn't a problem (and it isn't. Maybe I am more mature, but I can talk with older girls, there is no playing games and all that sh1t younger chicks pull on you). Well she hesitated and told me to give her my number. I take her phone and call my own cell (so we both have numbers). In the end she shakes my hand and tells me "I am glad we met", smiling and all.
Now I text massage her next morning (sunday), and get no answer. It was a stupid message, but still...
I text message everyone, even my best friends, cause I hate talking on the phone.

My question is, should I send her a text on wednesday, but she can not answer. Should I call her, and from my home so she doesn't know who's calling her so she'll pick up. Or thinking about it, if she doesn't want to pick up my number, why call her from another number. Pointless.
I think the main problem is in that she thinks I'm too young for her (I'm 4th year college. She finished college and is already working. But from the maturity point of view, I think we're at the same level.)
Anyway, if there isn't any reply I next her a s s.
What would you do?
Texting is lame-o. Stop it! I don't care if you don't "like" calling, just call her and set something up and get off the phone.

And you are NOT too young for her... three years? Wow, she's nitpicking, or testing you.
 

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You got it! Should I call her from my cell or home?

PS.I don't know why, but it seems to me that every "older" girl than me is more receptive of my flirting, CF... Maybe the older guys are wussies, too indirect.

PPS. I dont "like" calling cause I like watching the ppl I talk to.
 

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napoleon said:
...PPS. I dont "like" calling cause I like watching the ppl I talk to.
Do you really need to watch her if you are just asking to meet her someplace?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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On this other thread, similar problem, one of the answers was:




Get smart,

Text her again, but only once more. Raise your game, something funny using Push Pull. Like.....

"It was nice to meet a pretty face the other night, but can it hold an interesting conversation? If the answer is no then don't reply".

This works great for most cases. Basically she’s telling you she’s dumb by not replying.... so in essence she has to.

Your also telling her that your smart and you only want people aroud you who are smart.

Your also telling her her looks are not important.

Get smart....


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