"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not quite sure how to play this one...

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Theres a girl who sits by me in one of my classes, i'd put her at an 8 or 9.
The difference between her and the average good looking girl is that, shes not slutty, stupid (shes actually really smart...), attention *****y, or anything really that you would typically see on a hot girl.
I have no problem talking to other girls but she's just like...not like them.
I failed hard at describing this, but i don't really know how to play it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I had this exact same situation last year, I was just acting wild (in a good way) making funny and ****y comments on everything get them to notice you, ask for help with school work, once you break the ice it will be easier. Once you got them hooked give her a little silent treatment it works wonders, be unpredictable. That's the best I can describe it.

I was the loudest in the class, always teased everyone <- I think that's key make sure it's not just her she might perceive you as an a55hole, be an equal opportunity jerk so to speak, I even made teachers laugh. In the end that worked for me. I quickly got a little fan base of people that always wanted to talk to me. There were those odd moments when I'd be burning to say something but just kept my mouth shut, so yeah some moments like that will still remain.
 
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It's called oneitus :p

As soon as you say "she's not like them" it can screw up your 'game'. But hey it means you like the girl so go for it! It's not really a 'problem' it's normal.
 
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Main thing to keep yourself calm, and feign that you are uninterested.
 
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SinJester said:
It's called oneitus :p

As soon as you say "she's not like them" it can screw up your 'game'. But hey it means you like the girl so go for it! It's not really a 'problem' it's normal.
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Oh i'm not falling for her, but its always nice to have options or friends.
Do you know what i'm talking about though? Most hot girls are slutty, whory, or really sociable.
She's just not. Not like i'm percieving her as different, she simply is. It makes it a whole lot harder to talk to her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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