"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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not providing value for others

Plinco

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Do anyone here have interests that are not valuable to anyone else?

I figured out that one of my main problems is that I do not provide enough value to other people, nor do I have the desire to.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What kind of interests do you think provide value to other people? Like computer or home repair? Or drinking alot and being funny?

The only interest you need for other people to like you is an interest in THEM.
 

Plinco

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the only things I am good at are landscaping, and customer service. I know that the economy is going to completely crash, and I know about this site; you would think I should be getting ready to be way ahead of other people, but it is like I do not have the desire to make a practical application of my foreknowledge.

People are attracted to value, but in a seriously bad economic crisis, landscaping and probably customer service is not going to cut it. I would like to think I could be a crisis manager or leader of some kind, but again, I do not know how to make a practical use of the situation.
 

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Not quite sure what you're talking about, but "providing value" to people goes FAR beyond what you do for a living.
 

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Plinco said:
the only things I am good at are landscaping, and customer service. I know that the economy is going to completely crash, and I know about this site; you would think I should be getting ready to be way ahead of other people, but it is like I do not have the desire to make a practical application of my foreknowledge.

People are attracted to value, but in a seriously bad economic crisis, landscaping and probably customer service is not going to cut it. I would like to think I could be a crisis manager or leader of some kind, but again, I do not know how to make a practical use of the situation.
If you're talking about careers, health care is always a sure bet. But customer service is too. I don't know how bad the crash will be, but I don't think it will be apocolyptic so people will still buy and sell as always.

If you're talking social value, well, your interests are pretty literal and specific to you. People don't need alot in common but they need a couple things. And your interests aren't wide enough that alot of people will share them.

But there are other things that provide value besides interests. Being a good friend, listening, humor, a sense of fun. Connections between other people. Access to fun things. You can still have your own private interests but still be a socially valued person if you work it right.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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