"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Not "in the mood" when in the field

Huffman

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Heya. So from time to time I read some inspiring posts, or just take some time to reflect on myself. Usually, this leads to me being extremely PUMPED, energetic, etc. Like I am right now. It's already late but I feel like if I had a girl with me right now there's NO WAY I wouldn't get her.
Then I think "Yeah man this is it! Woah! Starting tomorrow, I'm gonna kick some major ass again!"
But on the next day, the drive is gone and my mood is pretty low again. I have to make a real effort to talk to even girls and it just shows.

Anyone experience the same thing? What did you do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm in the Mood

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No, don't force yourself! That would make you look awkward.

I can think of a few ways that I can wake myself up to go out and socialize.
-Morning runs, well really exercise in general. Get your body moving and get your flow going.
-Coffee helps a lot. This morning I had a huge headache and couldn't keep my eyes open, but after some caffeine, your mind starts making more connections and you usually talk more.
-Going out with friends is HUGE. You're already in a comfort zone of your own when you chill with friends and nothing can break this comfort. You become way more confident and outgoing when you're with friends, and you can use this to your advantage if you carry this feeling over to a girl that you approach while you're out and about.
-Listen to music, bring your ipod with you when you go out and listen to your favorite songs. This works for me every time.
-Just relax and keep good posture, stand up tall. Relaxing is one of the most important things wherever you go. You are not only in the mood then, but you create a calm environment around you and other people pick up on your mood.

I had to answer this thread cause of my sn, lol
 

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You have to go out whether you feel like it or not. Next time you are in that 'low mood' and feeling like ****e with no motivation, that's when you go out. By the time you're halfway to the club you'll be feeling way better already.
 

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don't masterbate for a week straight or 2 weeks straight. you become more refreshed and awake and on ur A game. Prove me wrong if you disagree
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Huffman

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Yeah thanks for the heads-up... you're right of course, get some nuts and just go in there.
Everybody knows it, but my mind keeps making up excuses.

As for the masturbation thing, been there done that, it gives you a little boost, but ultimately you still gotta do the work yourself... that's what it always boils down to :(
 

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This is something I also experience if I do nothing about it. However, I've figured out a couple things that always put me in a better state of mind every day. Experiment and see what works for you. Here's what I do.

First of all, when I wake up, I get some food and get on this website and read some material. I tend to ignore the posts on "this technique" and "that technique." I read inner game posts about being the best man you can be. If you haven't spent a lot of time on the DJ Bible, check it out at the bottom of this page. The 5 week reading guide is excellent.

Secondly, I get some exercise every day. I lift hard at the gym, I ask the huge guys what they're doing to get that way, I flirt with the girls who work at the gym. The last thing I do is run 1.5 miles. Not a marathon, but it gets my blood pumping.

Third, I take care of what needs to be done during that day. We all have things we can put off until tomorrow - don't do it. It feels much better to think to yourself that you're doing the right thing and getting your sh*t accomplished. You don't have something hanging over your head, so you're free to be in a better mood. Plus, you can rest assured that you have had a productive day. That's something to feel good about, no?

Good luck!
 
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