"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Not "in the mood" when in the field

Huffman

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Heya. So from time to time I read some inspiring posts, or just take some time to reflect on myself. Usually, this leads to me being extremely PUMPED, energetic, etc. Like I am right now. It's already late but I feel like if I had a girl with me right now there's NO WAY I wouldn't get her.
Then I think "Yeah man this is it! Woah! Starting tomorrow, I'm gonna kick some major ass again!"
But on the next day, the drive is gone and my mood is pretty low again. I have to make a real effort to talk to even girls and it just shows.

Anyone experience the same thing? What did you do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm in the Mood

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No, don't force yourself! That would make you look awkward.

I can think of a few ways that I can wake myself up to go out and socialize.
-Morning runs, well really exercise in general. Get your body moving and get your flow going.
-Coffee helps a lot. This morning I had a huge headache and couldn't keep my eyes open, but after some caffeine, your mind starts making more connections and you usually talk more.
-Going out with friends is HUGE. You're already in a comfort zone of your own when you chill with friends and nothing can break this comfort. You become way more confident and outgoing when you're with friends, and you can use this to your advantage if you carry this feeling over to a girl that you approach while you're out and about.
-Listen to music, bring your ipod with you when you go out and listen to your favorite songs. This works for me every time.
-Just relax and keep good posture, stand up tall. Relaxing is one of the most important things wherever you go. You are not only in the mood then, but you create a calm environment around you and other people pick up on your mood.

I had to answer this thread cause of my sn, lol
 

WhtRbt

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You have to go out whether you feel like it or not. Next time you are in that 'low mood' and feeling like ****e with no motivation, that's when you go out. By the time you're halfway to the club you'll be feeling way better already.
 

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don't masterbate for a week straight or 2 weeks straight. you become more refreshed and awake and on ur A game. Prove me wrong if you disagree
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Huffman

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Yeah thanks for the heads-up... you're right of course, get some nuts and just go in there.
Everybody knows it, but my mind keeps making up excuses.

As for the masturbation thing, been there done that, it gives you a little boost, but ultimately you still gotta do the work yourself... that's what it always boils down to :(
 

Mr. Bond

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This is something I also experience if I do nothing about it. However, I've figured out a couple things that always put me in a better state of mind every day. Experiment and see what works for you. Here's what I do.

First of all, when I wake up, I get some food and get on this website and read some material. I tend to ignore the posts on "this technique" and "that technique." I read inner game posts about being the best man you can be. If you haven't spent a lot of time on the DJ Bible, check it out at the bottom of this page. The 5 week reading guide is excellent.

Secondly, I get some exercise every day. I lift hard at the gym, I ask the huge guys what they're doing to get that way, I flirt with the girls who work at the gym. The last thing I do is run 1.5 miles. Not a marathon, but it gets my blood pumping.

Third, I take care of what needs to be done during that day. We all have things we can put off until tomorrow - don't do it. It feels much better to think to yourself that you're doing the right thing and getting your sh*t accomplished. You don't have something hanging over your head, so you're free to be in a better mood. Plus, you can rest assured that you have had a productive day. That's something to feel good about, no?

Good luck!
 
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